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Q: 16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...

I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.

Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.

But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?

Divine....

hay girl you seem to have a bad misunderstanding situation which I can help you claer it up

for starter you need to come face to face with
brandon and tell him what really been going on
between the two of you and that it all was going to when you met him don't matter how you say it just let him know that befroe you met him it was just a freinds with benefits that all and now that you talking to him it over and done

so when or if you do tell donald that you just want to be friends now you won't worry bout him
running back telling brandon and making it seem
like something else or whatever...

Rating: 5

Brandon knew from the start, because he used to hang out with me and Donald. Hes okay with it, he knows its the past, and he knew what he was getting into. All is good so far. Thanks for the advice =]

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