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My name is Darby. I'm seventeen years old. Feel free to e-mail or message me with any question. My e-mail is yo.darbyjay@live.com I will answer anything to the best of my ability. I decided to join this site because I love giving advice and have been told that I'm good at it. I get on every day. Usually a few times. You can also add me on AIM: OiScumPunk@aim.com.
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hey well i have a big problem now i have been going out with this guy for about 4 years and 2 months he would always treat me bad and everything calling me crap like whore slut and may i remind you i never did anything for him to call me that but i did talk back. He always broke up with me every summer for a month sometimes more, he would break up 2 days after if we fought and he would really make me feel so bad. We are still going out but this summer i met someone new while me and my boyfriend were on this break up i met this guy and he was amazing he always made me laugh and i really started liking him i might have even fallen in love. This guy that always broke up came back to me and now like i did come come back but i miss this guy that always made me laugh the way my boyfriend now got me back was by getting a new girl he got me really jealous and made me realize i wasnt ready to let him go yet but then this new guy that i met really i feel so bad that i left him for a jerk that i been going out with but i been going out with this guy for 4 years and i just dont know who to choose or what to do or anything please help because i feel so confused and just i dont want to play games with any of them so i want to ask you guys for the advice and hopefully it helps a lot it usually does that you :)
You should dump the guy you've been with for four years if he's verbally abusive. Plus, why would he break up with you for a month or so every summer? Sounds like he's been trying to take a break so he can do something he shouldn't be doing. Does he hook up with other people in that time while you're broken up? Well, apparently he has at least once since he got a new girl and made you jealous.
The thing you need to realise is that you're both going to be jealous. He got a new girl and you got jealous, but at that point you were into a new guy as well, so I'm sure he'd be jealous about that, too.
For a while things will be weird and you'll miss each other because you've been together for so long. You'll be depressed and jealous and so will he, even if he doesn't act like it publically. That's just a natural part of the breaking up process; especially when you've been dating for a long time.
The relationship just doesn't sound healthy at all to me. I think the first thing you need to focus on is breaking up with the guy you're currently with. Then, give yourself some time to get over it. Don't try to jump into a relationship with the guy you met last summer. If you do, you won't be fully over your ex and you'll just end up hurting the new guy more.
After you've given yourself a while to heal from the last relationship and get over it, then you can try to date the guy from last summer. While you're getting over your ex, you can talk to the guy from last summer. Just let him know that you're not wanting to jump into a relationship with him because you're trying to get fully over your ex before you get into another relationship. It's good to become good friends with someone before you date them anyway.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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thank you that was great
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