Dude, you're only 17. You have pretty much ALL the time in the world to find 'that guy'.

Someone right for you should have several qualities.

> "Being myself does not seem to work either."
That's #1 - the perfect guy for you will be someone who WILL like you for who you are; someone who you don't have to go overboard to impress / get their attention, someone you can just be yourself with and still have fun together. A lot of girls make the mistake of trying to get a guy to like them by trying to make themselves look hot, showing off their boobs, ass, whatever, but that's a huge mistake and will pretty much attract all the 'jerks and players' you know. If you start a relationship based on only superficial things like looks, it probably won't go past that. A good guy is someone who will want to have a healthy relationship with you,not one that's just about sex.

>It's kind of hard to know whether he is single or not just by LOOKING. Might be good to ask around. But single-ness doesn't mean 'dateable' - would you REALLY want to go out with a single guy whose hobby = making out with a different girl every ten minutes? I don't know what kind of person you are in terms of datng, but your boyfriend should probably be okay with commitment (most of my fellow teens don't think of relationships as anything permanent, they jsut see guys as an accessory, not as someone they MIGHT have a future with; i on the other hand actually want a good, lasting relationship and am not willng to settle for anyone just because theyre hot or they ask me out, etc. If I don't think a relationship is gonna go anywhere based on pure facts about the guy, I don't bother going out with him. If you're more like me and are seeking something more permanent, keep reading)

> Looks aren't everything.
Yes, we're ALL a little (if not very) shallow. But as I've mentioned before, looks can't be the foundation of your relationship. I'm not saying you should go out with a guy so hideous you throw up at the sight of him, but that you should be OPEN. If an average-looking guy talks to you in class, try being friendly. it MAY go somewhere.
The funny thing is, if it does, if you REALLY get to love a person, you get to love almost anything about them. A face that seemed average to you at first may look better to you if you love the person. It's actually very psychological and I won't go very indepth, but - seeing him, seeing his face, makes you happy; your brain makes the connection that his features = :)))) . thus, he appears more attractive to you.
So keep an open mind.

> finding THAT GUY.
No, he won't magically materialize on your doorstep one day. Sorry :(
You're only 17; if you live in a small town and don't like the people here it might be a good idea to consider leaving. Look for a college elsewhere; a good idea would be one in a big, diverse city - places like new york have a whole rainbow of people with remarkably unique personalities.
if leaving the city isn't an option, try getting more..out there. Join a club or get a job or SOEMTHING that puts you outside your regular circle of friends. It's always a way to meet new people. Clubs may not be the best place because they usually lead to just hook-ups and one-night thigs rather than an actual relationship..

> GETTING NOTICED.
Like I said before, if you have to take your shirt off to get his attention, he probably isn't good for you.
It depends on how you know him (getting someone's attention in, say, class is different than getting the attention of some guy you see in a store 5 feet away from you). If you see this guy very often, like in a classroom, you have much more time to get him to notice you. Though it may be hard to do when you're stuck sitting at a desk, try showing off your REAL personality somehow. If you're funny or like this food or this music or whatnot, try to work that in to yoru class participation. I'm nto saying you should talk about flying spaghetti monsters when you should be learning about derivatives, but if it answers the question, you can try relating the answer to something you like or explaining the answer by giving an example of something you've experienced. You may not get the opportunity to do this often, but whenyou do, you rack up participation points in class AND let the guy you like know more about you :)
You can also just talk to him. Just start a conversation about ANYTHING (except maybe "WILL YOU GO OUTWITH ME!?" right off the bat ;p ). Look at his body language when he talks to you - does he look away and not make eye contact? does he give you no personal space, making you feel intimidated? Does he look you in the eye or at your chest? Does he seem actually INTERESTED in what you have to say or do you get the feeling that he's just nodding sporadically and not paying attention?
you shouldn't force a guy to be interested in you; if he doesn't like you, then what's the use fighting for him? of course, some guys (girls too!) love playing hard to get or love picking on you etc. because they like you, but if he COMPLETELY avoids you and gives you NO attention, then he probably is not interested.

I hope I helped :)
Feel free to ask me more questions if i haven't been clear at all.

Yes, I know.. I always tell other girls if they want to get a guy they have to be confident, smile, stay positive, and most importantly: be themselves. But its not so easy to take your own advice.. as you probably know. And no, I would never date anyone just because they are cute, or have lots of money or anything like that.
I want someone who is a gentleman but who is not afraid to just let loose and have a good time while being himself. I would like a guy who is not afraid to show his romantic side. And most importantly, he should be someone who is completely down to earth, that would be cute all on its own.
I totally understand what you are saying though and I will try my best if that someone ever shows up for me. Thanks for everything you have said :)

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