Hello, my name is Sarah. I am currently attending college, and my major is psychology. One day I hope to be a therapist, then I'll be paid to give advice :P
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I'm kind of surprised at myself, asking a question on here about my love life. Usually I can deal things out on my own- but lately I've realized my antics only lead to the same outcome :unhappy and alone. Here's the lowdown-
My friend,we'll call her X, used to really like this kid- Z. So it was fine, I was happy for them if anything were to come out of it.So they were on webcam, and i went on just to say hi. Then "Z", ends up telling my friend X, that he has a huge crush on me. Thing is, i found it kind of odd,seeing as usually to like someone you have to talk to them first.(that's how i am,anyway) So naturally my friend X, was crushed. I felt horrible, because i only wanted the best for them two. X finally moves on from Z, and she gets a boyfriend-who she claims to be "in love" with. (mind you they've been dating for a matter of two weeks- ALSO, a side question before i get to my major one- WHY do people do that? Say they love someone so fast? I think its ridiculous, am i missing something?) Anyway, X is moved on. And lately "Z" and i have been talking. He's 18 and i'm 16. We're okay talking,but i can still tell that X likes him, no matter how much she "loves" her new boyfriend. The thing is- somethings telling me to not go for Z. But; this ALWAYS happens to me when i start to develop feelings for people! I really want a relationship- but every time i get close to some one, i get scared of what they'll think of me and I'll try to fade away. I feel like I'm jinxing myself in from every angle here just writing this, but can someone help me out? How can i never get close to someone? Why do i fear feelings? I've never had a male figure to really rely on, but my inability to let someone in is starting to feel like a disability. I know i'm all over the place with this but i'd really like to get my love life in order :P. Any help on any of the topics i've talked about would really help! thank you. (link)
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To start with, your friend, X probably says she is "in love" because she is caught up in the moment. Hormones and whatnot are pumping through her blood like a fire hydrant, it can make your emotions go wack.
Z, is fair game, yes X is your friend, and you have your loyalties, but you have to follow your heart. X, if she is a really good friend will support you, and understand. I would talk to her about how you feel though, point out that if she was you, she might be tempted to do the same thing. Just for good measure you may want to give X and her new boyfriend another week, before you move forward.
You may be second guessing yourself, and potential suitors because you are scared. Maybe you have seen failed relationships in your family, divorces maybe. You have to remember that you deserve everything good the world has to give you. Be confident. I hope everything works out.
Best Wishes!
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ahh that made me feel loads better ! a 1000 thanks to you :D
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