I'm an ordinary person who likes the following things: writing, helping people, movies, reading, jogging, animals and teaching.
I don't like: stress, confusion, people who do not drag their weight and laziness.
My good qualities (I think) are patience, open-mindedness and the ability to write and speak in public with ease.
My weaknesses (I'm always working on these!) are the tendency to take on too much, from time to time; the tendency to not get enough sleep and my eating habits could be a lot better than they are now.
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i am a single dad of 4 children 3 girls age 9 , 13, 16, and a boy age 8 my sister has been questing my children about me seeing them naked.
i bath my 8, and 9 year old and wash my 13 year old hair the only reason i help my 16 year old is bescause she has 2 broken arms and a broken leg who eles can hekp me (link)
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Okay...I am going to try to answer this question delicately, because I think this is a "delicate" situation. First of all, I am not saying that you mean anything but the best for your children. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you taking care of four children all alone. You seem to be doing the best you can. But I think it might be time to step back and think about the "delicate" stuff. Yes, you want to take care of them and help them get washed properly, but there is also that "delicate" stuff that needs to come into play, especially at the ages that your girls are now. I might be wrong, but I would think that the 9 year old should be able to begin washing herself, with supervision. She should be holding the wash cloth and doing the washing and you should just be helping out with her hair, maybe. But at the same time, you should be teaching her how to wash her own hair and get the shampoo out when rinsing, etc. For the girl who is 13, there is absolutely no reason why she shouldn't be washing her own hair and rinsing it properly, as well. Could you start instructing her to do it herself with the idea that you can start backing off, just as you are with the 9 year old taking her own bath?
As far as the 16 year old, you seem to be doing the best you can, considering all of her problems. It certainly looks like you could use some help with her. Is there someone you could hire to come in and give her a bath a couple of times a week? Like a home health worker? They do not get paid all that much, but that might be something to look into, considering all of her broken bones. And she may feel less embarrassed about her father having to bathe her, as well.
Please don't take these suggestions as anything but trying to help out with the "delicate" situation of a Dad trying to do his best, but having girls to help. Good luck.
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