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ok, so ever since high school, i've always been part of different groups of friends. Right now, im friends with tom-boyish girls that aren't all pretty made-up faces, and another group that is all made-up faced and into boys. They are different groups of people but they aren't too different, like to the point where if u bring them together there could be a massive cat-fight.. So they aren't too different, they just dont exactly like each other a whole lot, they dont mind each other though.. I hope im making sense.

Well, i was just wondering what does this mean? Im finishing high school this year and starting uni next year.. Could this mean that im still 'searching for myself'? But i feel like i know who i am already. Or could this mean im not a cliche? Like i dont fall into a clique like in those typical American movies..? Or could this mean im two-faced? I seriously doubt this one, because im still the same person in both groups.. Fun-loving and goofy..
Sorry this is so long..
Thank you though.. :)

Having different groups of friends is natural. Personalities are never just 'one type' - you won't always have just 'one personality' - and obviously the groups that are your friends, like you as you are - hence why they don't mind your other friends - that isn't of importance to them.

I can also tell you, that most likely once you start university - you will find a new group of friends and a new identity (we grow up and learn a lot more when in a different environment). This doesn't mean that you have not found yourself - to me it seems as if you have, but just remember that the self is ever changing - we always learn and change.

I think you have a strong group of friends who have influenced you in the right way. Of course you know who you are already, but this changes - and its called growth =) life is actually wonderful, even if it has crazy changes!

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