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Member Since: September 27, 2009
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Last Update: October 2, 2009
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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other. (link)
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I'm a mother too, and I think you've married a selfish, spoiled jerk who doesn't contribute anything to your marriage except pouting and gluttony. I agree with the other poster that children do better with both parents, but this guy is in no way ready to be a parent yet. So far you have one adult child and one more on the way. You shouldn't exist for any man's convenience, workwise, sexual or otherwise.
My first husband didn't care if I was nauseus either. If he wanted sex, we had sex and that was it. I left him 3 months into my pregnancy because I could clearly see 20 years down the road and there was no way I was going to be treated like owned property. Never looked back and didn't spend two minutes regretting my decision.
You can continue to try to save your marriage if you want to, but I think you're going to find he's a lost cause. Send him back to his mommy, who turned him into what he is today.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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