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so i'm new at this school and i want people to like me. how can i make this happen? today was my first day and people where nice to me etc but i still have noone to hang out with and i was alone in the breaks. what can i do to have a 'good vibe' ?? (link)
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Hey. I've been the new girl twice, so I know what you're going through.
Firstly, talk to people. Don't shy away when people talk to you. Ask them questions about the school.
But here's my main piece of advice: don't stay with the first group you hang out with. Sure, do get to know them, do hang out with them when they ask, but just because you now have someone to hang out with doesn't mean you shouldn't keep your options open. You may have heaps of things to talk about in the first few days, but that could wear thin quickly.
At the first school where I was the 'new girl' the popular kids kept asking me to hang with them. I accepted once, but then kept declining the next few times because it didn't feel right. Then I hung out with my friend who I had known for years. Although I got along with her nicely, I didn't with her friends. Then I finally settled down with the group of friends in most of my classes, and they stayed my friends for the rest of my time there (give or take a few due to silly fights)
At my second high school, I stayed with the first group that offered. The first day was great, we got on really well. The second was okay, I could speak a few times. The next week I found it hard to enter conversations so I stayed silent most of the time. I ended up sitting away from them and just texted people all lunch.
It was like that for 9ish months. I then finally started talking to new people, and now I have a few groups to sit with at lunch, and I can finally talk during lunch and enjoy it.
Sorry to ramble about my life, but it was the best example I could use. Don't feel obligated to hang with the first group you find.
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