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My ex broke up with me about a month ago. The main reason was that my parents don't allow me to see him very often and are very restricting in general. It's summer so naturally I can't see him at school. It's been tough since the day we broke up. We both say we love eachother. He also happens to be my best friend. We decided to keep hanging out but one thing led to another and we started acting like a couple again. Kissing, holding hands, ect. The problem is that over the summer he developed feelings for another girl as well. They aren't dating or anything but they do see eachother a lot. I suspected that something was going on and yesterday my mutual friend spilled the beans to me and the other girl. I decided to talk to him about it and see what was going on exactly. I wanted to protect my friend from being attacked by him for not keeping this a secret, so I lied and said that I had read a text message between them on her phone. But then I decided to tell him what really happened and for some reason he got incredibly angry. I know that it is because I lied to him and betrayed his trust, but I was only doing it to protect my friend. Now he very upset and although I talked to him, I've never seen him this hurt. I'm supposed to be his best friend who tells him everything, but I messed up. At the same time I also feel hurt that he didn't tell me that he had feelings for this other girl. I know that he is single and can like whoever he wants, but I love him so much and I know what I want. The problem is that even now he doesn't know what he wants. He's very confused. I'm not sure how I should handle this. I told him that I'm still his best friend and that I was really sorry for everything. I think I am going to give him some space so that he can figure things out, but it's so hard not talking to him. He's the person I turn to for everything. And now I can't do that. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
This is why you shouldnt date your guy freinds because it can mess up your freindship! Since it already happened nothing more can become ruined. Now is the time to tell him to give you another chance tell him why you lied and how hurt you were when he kept this a secret. Hopefully he will understand and you can both go about earning one anothers trust back. Its good to just give him space. If hes smart he will talk to you once more. As for the other girl dont bother with her eventually shell be gone.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. Well I've written him a letter and mailed it to him. I wrote in it that I was going to give him the space he needs and in the meantime I will not contact him. It's going to be tough but I think I can handle not talking to him if it'll save our friendship. Thank you.