Hi! My name is Sidney; Im here to answer every question you need to have answered(: I will get every detail down; and be straight up. So, if you need help or have questions i would love to help you; so what are you waiting for!
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Gender: Female
Location: California
Occupation: school;
Age: 18
Member Since: August 10, 2009
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21/f. He's 24/m. We've have been involved for four years. REALLY long story short, it's been a rough road for us. He used to be emotionally abusive, but he made a conscious decision to change. I agreed to let the past go, and forgive him. It was great for a long time, and despite his family hating me, we were happy.
Recently, I got a job in my field. Instead of being happy for me when I told him about the pay, he said, "That's it? You should turn it down."
Now when I try to tell him funny stories about work, he says "sweet" with no inflection, and changes the subject. He makes a point of letting me know I'm "not funny" when I try to joke around, or he thinks I'm serious when I'm not. He suddenly doesn't understand me anymore.
It's become increasingly obvious to me that he doesn't care. About anything, including himself. He's studying for the MCAT, and it's all he CLAIMS he ever does. I have absolutely no objection to him studying, and I'd be happy he was doing it if it was really what he wanted. Instead, he's doing it to appease his parents, and I hate him for it. He doesn't have the balls to stand up to them and say he doesn't want to do it. Of course, he doesn't know what he wants to do anyway.
I've lost respect for him, I'm becoming less attracted to him. He's starting to say little nasty things to me, and I just don't want to put up with it.
I think he just doesn't belong in my life anymore...but how do I tell him? In person, I know, but I have to get him to stop "studying" long enough for me to say something. How do I do THAT when I never see him?
Should I give him a chance to redeem himself? (link)
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I agree; it does sound like he hasnt changed at all.
Its hard to let someone go that you have been with for so long and gone through so much with;
but theres a point where you relize that you need to do whats best for you. And i believe that if you follow this road that youve been taking for four years; its going to lead you to a dead end.
You need to let him go and you need to go and do your thing. You need a better man that will treat you with the respect that you really do deserve.
Just tell him everything thats been going on. But sit him down. And talk to him about. and say lets take a break for a little while. and then when we both think one another has changed; we will talk.(:
good luck.
-sidney
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Rating: 5
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Thanks. I think a "break" might be delving into areas that are a little too gray. We've had trouble with that in the past. I think this does have to be either black or white...*sigh*
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