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Q: 14/f
I'm going to boarding school in less than a month and am currently in a relationship with my "friend". We're "together" but decided to wait on dating. We had dated earlier during the first week of summer when we didn't know each other but have become really very close. We have admitted we loved each other and are fully commited to each other....but as friends. I'm confused because soon we'll be going to different highschools (me co-ed boarding school and him normal) and I'm not so sure what, I guess you could say, the rules or guidelines of a relationship like this are. I know we'll meet other people but does us being only friends mean we're supposed to be exclsive? I love him as a dear friend and more obviously but...(i'm not trying to be selfish by saying this)but am I really expected to be alone at a boarding school for four years? I doubt it, but we're "together" and I really don't know what to do or what that even means now that I think about it! I'm going away, although only 20 miles away, to boarding school and he's going to some other school. Please some advice would be great because honestly, I love him. I just don't understand what he thinks being "together" means. In fact, he's never even said it, it's all been implied which also worries me because that makes me wonder even more what he or what we both expect from each other. I appreciate any advice you can give.
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Love is complicated. Especially, with the way you're making it sound. The thing is, you need to decide just how "exclusive" you want to be. From reading this, I gather that you would like your opportunity at this new boarding school to explore your dating and friendship horizons. Since you do you not know where exactly the boundaries are with your friend, the best thing you can do is ask him. Just tell him how you feel about the both of you attending different schools. Hopefully, you will see eye to eye and come to an agreement. It's always best to talk things through and know where you stand, so you don't have any problems. I hope things work out the way you want them to!
x Elliott
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Thank you so very much for your advice. I acutally just a few moments ago took your advice and worked up my courage to ask him. Luckily we do see eye to eye and have decided to remain just friends and date! We still love each other but have agreed it's for the best. So in the end, everything ended wonderfully! thank you soo so much for your advice.
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bio
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Hey there everyone =]
My name's Elliott, and I'm here to answer all of your burning questions! And since I'm getting to know you, I think it'd be a good idea to let you know a bit about me. I'm just a 16-year-old girl, and a Junior in high school. I'd say with my story, I have some experience in answering many of high school's most common questions(See my Favorite Categories). Generally, I love to play the guitar and the piano. Writing, whether it be lyrics, short stories
or poetry, well, I've always had a passion
for it =] I'm News Editor for my high school paper, and Poetry Co-Editor for the magazine- So if you have any English questions, be sure I'm the one you ask! Haha (: If there's anything else you're curious to know, then just go ahead and ask! I won't bite, i promise [= Ask for my cell number too if you want, I'll share.
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Pennsylvania Occupation: Student Age: 16 AIM: Member Since: August 18, 2008 Answers: 34 Last Update: October 28, 2009 Visitors: 3550
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