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Ok well im 17 and my girlfriend was 15. She broke up with me because she's to scared to lose me. She said when were together she feels like nothing can go wrong. But we don't get to see eachother as much as we want to and she starts missing me. She thinks alot and it always ends up ending what we have (its happened before). I love her but she says she wont be able to handle it when i leave for college. Which is only a couple of miles away, but we wont be seeing eachother at school. I tried to convince her that everything would be alright but she wont trust me. She said she wants to be friends so nothing will go wrong and she wont have to worry.
We see things very differently. She wants to be close friends and i dont. I see it as im looking at someone who i care about more then a friend but cant have. And she sees it as someone that she had a good relationship with.
I dont know what we are or what we are going to be. But i want us to be together, i want her to trust me. But i dont think thats going to happen. I dont know if this would change anything but she said that she's unhappy that i dont talk to her family alot.
My question is what do you think about this? What do you recommend that i do? And how is she feeling?
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Well as you pointed out she is doubting your relationship.
I think she is trying to get out of it before she is to far in, she is doing it to prevent herself from getting hurt.
She thinks that if you stay together she will start liking you more and more, so that when you leave, it will only be worse for her, and you cant blame her for thinking you will get with someone else, you have seen the movies havnt you? Girl likes boy, boy goes off to college and starts sleeping with every girl he sees, girl finds out and dumps his ass over the summer (quote from american pie beta house haha)
I hope i have made sense.. if you have any questions just ask me :)
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--- In answer to your other question that you left me, If she comes back again then she obviously feels at the time that she would rather be with you even if she doubts you, then not at all. But she cant keep doing that and walking all over you because that is not fair so you have to sort let her know that she cant keep playing you that way just because she can't make up her own mind.
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Im not like most boys, i wouldnt do anything with another girl if i still loved her, whether we're together or not. Thanks for the advice, ive been through this a couple of times with her. I asked her to trust me that everything was gunna be fine when i left and she couldnt. I really do hope thats she's scared of getting hurt. I just have one more question, If she comes back to me again which would be maybe the 4th or 5th time because of the same feelings. What does it mean?
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