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Hello,
I am Aria. I created a network for young ladies to have a place to chat about situations. Life situations. I remember growing up, there were things I needed to talk about but couldn't. Sometimes even my friends were judgmental and just didn't understand. So I wanted to create a place for young girls to talk openly and feel comfortable doing so.

Currently I am studying to be a counselor. My goal is to have an independent practice where I can counsel adolescent and teen girls. I am also mentoring teen moms. Being a teen mom myself, I wanted to give back to the community. I wanted to show teen mothers that life doesn't stop just because you have a child.

I have work successfully as a computer programmer for the past 12 years. I hold a Bachelors of Administration in Management Information Systems. I am working towards my Masters of Science in Social Work. I am a single mother of two boys, one biological and one adopted.

I hope my advice will be a beneficial to young women everywhere.

advice

So back in June, i hooked up with this boy my age that i just met that night. He goes to a different school, but we know the same people and had heard of each other before. We were all drinking at this one kid's house, and we were kinda meant to hook up cause everyone else there had someone to hook up with so it just happened. But we talked a lot and hooked up a lot and even a little more, like he gave me a hickey. And i'm PRETTY sure he asked for my number, but I don't completely remember. We were talking about hanging out and stuff, and he acted like he really liked me that night. The only issue is, he never talked to me again. It really hurt me for some reason, because I have this problem that whenever i hook up with someone I become attached to them for a little. But when I tell my friends that I'm upset he never texted me or said anything to me and we never hung out, they just say 'who cares, it's just a random hookup'. Like no one thinks its a big deal to hook up with someone and never talk to them again, but personally I hate that. It's the worst feeling ever. He sseemed like such a nice and mature guy and everyone said he was, but I just don't get what I did wrong. I was thinking into it a lot, and I was thinking maybe I gave him the wrong idea because he was trying to do more with me and i told him I didn't want too and he was like 'sorry, sorry'. and then we just went to sleep. And then i got up to go to the bathroom and instead of laying back down with him i layed on a different couch. And my one friend was saying this might have made him feel like I did'nt like him or something, but really I wasn't even thinking about it like it wasn't a big deal at all. And now to make matters worse, he is back with his ex-girlfriend. They were done for about 2 months before I hooked up with him, and the reason I knew it was okay was that my friend hooked up with him the weekend before me. I feel completely used and I just think that he is one of those boys who just wants to get some whenever he can, considering he hooked up with my friend the weekend before when they were drunk, so now i just feel like shit. And i've decided never to hook up with a random person again unless I know they will talk to me after. And he told his ex-girlfriend that he hooked up with me because she wanted to know everyone he had hooked up with since they broke up. Now i just feel like one of those girls who hook up with people's ex's as a rebound, and i NEVER wanted to be that girl. I"m the type of girl who's all about playing hard to get and not being needy to boys and being independant. I mean i don't really feel that way, but I try my hardest to act that way in front of guys. So something like this has never happened to me and idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about it even though i should of forgotten about him a WHILE ago, because he obviously never thought about me again. the thing that pisses me off SO much is that i'm the type of girl who is not easy at all, and guys know that. I've worked so hard on making that my image and living up too it, because for some reason my worst fear is being 'easy' or a 'slut'. so, i play hard to get , sometimes i even come off as a bitchy to guys, because i am so afraid of being used or getting attached. And i don't get it, it's like this guy for example, his girlfriend is SUCH whore, she is the biggest slut i've ever met literally and i'm NOT just saying that, i mean she probably has diseases. and i am not at ALL, guys know that if they want ANYTHING physically from me they have to actually like me, except this night was an exception.i KNEW it was a bad idea to let my guard down for once. but of course, all i would do is make out with him because i would never do anything more with a random guy..

First of all, you just met him. So to have feelings for him that soon really has to do with you. Maybe you need to explore why you fall for guys so quickly. Has something in your past caused you to need to be with a guy before you actually know him?
You had a great night with him but that doesn’t constitute a relationship. And he may have liked you while he was under the influence of alcohol. Maybe when he sobered up, he didn’t remember or he realized he just wasn’t interested.
You friends are telling you the truth it is just a random hook up. You really don’t know this guy, you just met him.
No, you didn’t do anything wrong. He probably still had feelings for his girlfriend. Guys will use other girls to get over their loss of a girlfriend.
Kissing and touching or whatever you all were doing, and giving him all of your time that night was intimate. He probably did want more from you. And if you’re not going to be on the page, you shouldn’t do those things. But no means no even if you do go that far.
Is he really a nice and mature guy if he hooked up with your friend while he was drunk, and then hooked up with you? He knows the two of you are friend. And why would you hookup with someone who just hooked up with your friend?
You sound like a mature young lady and just feel you’ve experience something that women experience all the time. Take time and explore yourself first. Find out what you really want, and how you want it. Find out why you fall so quickly for guys you just met.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, and I know that it is my problem not his. But I honestly don't know how to change it that I get attached so quickly. It's one of my biggest issues.
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