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Q: I'm a 19/f, and I've been with my boyfriend (also 19) for almost a year. While this isn't my longest relationship (yet), I feel very deeply for him, and I trust him with everything in the world. We've had our share of fights, but we've always been able to work things out. We're talking about starting to save up for an apartment in the future, and we have my parents support, as long as we're ready.

the problem is, that lately ALL I've been thinking about is how badly I want to have a baby with him. I KNOW this is crazy, because I'm still in community college and we're not even talking about marriage yet, but I keep doing research on childcare and newborns. Is this my hormones? Or am i just nuts?

PS- we practice safe sex and we don't take risks. Even though right now I THINK I want a child, I know I'm not ready. So what's wrong with me??
No, you're not nuts. This is normal, especially since you really do feel deeply for him and that you're absolutely sure that he's the one for you. Does he favor having a baby with you too? Just make sure you both would like the same thing. It may possibly be too early to be having a baby but never too early to be "thinking" about having one. If you two agree and would both like to have a baby then all you've gotta do is set future plans(= Nonetheless, education is always the #1 priority and priorities must come first! So stay together for the sake of your love life, get through school, get careers, and live happily ever after! Good Luck!

Thank you!!!

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