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I know people always say you can love one person, then move on and love another person. I'm not sure how to do that though. What was it like for you (whoever decides to answer this question) when you moved on to another person, and fell in love with them? Did you learn anything new? Do you regret leaving the person you loved before that person? Any advantages, disadvantages? ..Any pointers to help me? .. Any advice at all would be appreciated. Thanks!
I believe that yes, you can move from one love to another. But I believe that no matter how many people come and go in your life that you will fall in love with, there will be that one that is your true love. Some people are able to spend the rest of their lives with that person and other dont and then that person is considered the "lost love".
When I was 14 I started dating a guy who was my best friend. We stayed together for 3+ yrs and had an awesome relationship. But around the 3 yr mark of being with him I started developing feelings for a coworker of mine and left my boyfriend for this new guy. I went back and forth between the 2 of them for about 6 months because my exboyfriend was faithfully fighting to get me back. But I resisted and stayed with the new guy. I did love the new guy and I thought I did alot more at the moment then I realize now. I stayed with that guy for about 10 months before we split. Now that its years after the fact, I realized I never loved that guy the way I loved my ex. My ex (the one I was w/ for 3 yrs) is like my lost love. I cant help but compare everyone to him. I will never be with him again and I accepted that a long time ago but I will always wonder "what if" and I will care for him and have love for him till the day I die. I still to this day do not know why I left him for the other guy, or even what I saw in the other guy. Not that there was anything wrong with him, we had a fine relationship and it ended on decent terms but looking back I just dont get it.
Its not necessarily that I regret anything because if all wouldnt have happened I wouldnt have the life I have today. I jsut wonder what life I would have had because Im curious.
It definately is tough going from one love right to another because its hard not to compare and when your used to a certain person and their personality and how they react and do things, its weird switching to a totally different person with a totally different personality. It takes some getting used to. And sometimes you will regret. Its just somehting that you learn with time. Its definately not something you can prepare yourself for because you never know what will happen and you cant control your feelings. My best advice for you is dont just act on the moment. Think everything thru and be fair. Try your best not to compare and be open minded.
Good luck.
(Rating: 5) Great advice, thanks. Your situation up there is what I'm going through. I was in a relationship for 3 yrs, then someone new came along.. and I have feelings for him, too. It feels so new.. The 3 yr long relationship got bad, and it was easy to leave something that hurt me so much, so often. I still do have feelings for him of course, and I'm confused as to what to do, that's why I asked this question. But thanks, once again.