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17 / F [Sorry if this is lengthy]
Okay, well I met this guy back in 2007. And we became really close friends. He asked me out three months after we met. And we really liked each other. We were together for 3 months and then he had to move to another state. I manage to cope with it. We didn't stay together because we were both young (I was 14) and we didn't believe in long distance relationships. Well, he eventually moved back and we became close again. Well, we've been together for 7 months now. And we really care about each other. (I'm not going to say I love him, because I don't know that yet. And I'm not like those stupid little teens who say they love someone because they're with them. But I really, really care about him.) But we still don't believe in long distance relationship. But I don't know, there's something there that we want to start believing because we care so much. I'm 17 and he's turning 19 in a couple of months. So, it's not much of an age difference. But I'm scared that he'll move on when he moves. I really do care about him and I don't want him to leave, but I know that he has to.
So my questions are...
- Have any of you been in a situation like this? If so, how did you deal it?
- Should we continue what we have even though he's far away?
- If we talk more about a long distance relationship, do you think we'll be in one?
I want to make him some CDs so he can remember him. And I already have CDs of our songs. But I want to make more.
- What are some songs about having someone you care about moving / leaving and you're just not the same without them there?
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Hey there!
Well just so you know long distance relationships are possible if you make them work. I know that you say you both don't "believe" in them, but have you tried? I understand completely if you don't want to but you should atleast try especially if you care so deeply about him.
I was in a similar type of situation like this when I was younger. When I was 15 I was dating a guy and moved to a different state - while we still talked we weren't "together" I would come back occasionally once every year or twice and we'd see each other, and we'd act like we were dating but we actually weren't. Now that I'm 19 it's been a while and when I see him I can say that I genuinely cannot stand him. I think he's the most irritating person and I think it's because I just got bored of him after a while and we grew up differently I just felt like he was so immature. So, now we don't talk - but I'm sure if we would've been around each other more or if we would've talked more then it might've been easier to cope with.
Anyways - to answer your questions. It's really up to the both of you if you want to continue what you have. It's definitely going to be a difficult thing to get through, but like I said earlier if you both care then you should atleast try it and see how it happens. A lot of people say that the only way you can tell if you love someone is if they're not around and you miss them like crazy and just want them. Obviously if you're open to date other people when he moves that's OK too, but if your both on the same mindset that you care about each other more then anything then yeah. You just both need to be on the same page about your relationship and you have to have great trust in one another.
The only way that you both will be in a long distance relationship is if you both agree that you think it's a good idea and you're willing. You can't just assume that if you discuss being in a long distance relationship with your bf that it will just "happen" you both have to promise that you think it's a good idea.
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thanks; i think i might take your advice and try the long distant relationship thing.
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