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hello againnnn :)
okay so i've been having dreams about my ex...alot of them were sex dreams and we've been hanging out alot like good friends and i slipped telling him i had sex dreams about him so he made me tell him the whole story haha. but these past few nights i've been having nightmares about him dying and getting hurt...i wake up in the middle of the night and i want to call/text him because i can't figure out if it really happened because they always take place at night and i go to bed in my dream, so i wake up and don't know if it happened...i really want to call him to make sure he's okay but i feel bad for waking him up..but i think if i call him at night and talk to him about it they might go away....i just feel bad about waking him up (when we were dating he said he doesn't care if i wake him up but idk now since we're not =/) should i? i think it might help but i don't want to ruin anything and i still love him alot.
thank you
-shay
I think that you're just having dreams cos you're worried about your dreams, if that makes sense. Maybe you had the first dream and it freaked you out, so now you're having more dreams and because you're thinking that they can't go away unless you talk to him at night, you're subconsciously making yourself have nightmares until you do talk to him.
Talking to him might help and it might not. I'd let the dreams continue for a few more days. Clear your mind before going to sleep. Try hard not to think about him or your dreams before you do fall asleep, because then you're more likely to dream about him.
If the dreams continue past this weekend, send him a text message when you wake up at night. Don't call him right away because he might answer with a simple text. You should really avoid calling and waking him up at four in the morning just to make sure he's okay.
If it comes to that, you'll have to though. So, if he doesn't answer to the text, wait until the next morning when he texts you after he wakes up. Then tell him about these dreams you've been having and tell him how you get worried about him when you wake up. Ask if it's okay if you call him if you have another nightmare like that because you think it will make you stop dreaming those things. If he says that it's okay, then call him the next time you have a nightmare like that.
As far as the vacation, I would ask him near the middle of July. That way he'll have time to clear any other plans. If you ask him at the end of the month, he may already have plans that week. I'd say ask him sometime next week.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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good advice. thank you thank you
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