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okayy so me and my ex are hanging out this tuesday. and remember how i mentioned after prom night how i was kinda flirty with a friend since he pretty much ditched me and then he got really pissed at me for it? well i want to ask him why he got pissed...cause i mean, why would he get pissed if he didn't still love me? (btw i called him and pretty much cried to him telling him i was sorry..which secretly i don't really know what i'm sorry for? cause we aren't even dating so its not like i cheated on him) i think he's confused and just hitting that rough stage in the relationship..but i still want him back =/
If I were you, I really wouldn't ask him. It sounds good in theory, like he would just lay everything out on the table for you, but he would probably just get more pissed off.
When you break up with someone, it's going to hurt the first time you see them with someone else. No matter who or where it is. If it's in front of the ex, it's never a good idea. Especially since you guys are still hanging out and everything. You're right, you didn't cheat on him and he's not your boyfriend. But, imagine if he was hitting on a girl in front of you.
He did ditch you, and that wasn't right. So if you mention it, try to be subtle. Don't say, "Hey, man, why'd you get so pissed when I was flirting with that dude after prom?" You have to go about it with sensitivity since he's clearly still sensitive about everything. If you want to figure out what was happening in his mind when he got mad, say something along the lines of, "I know you got upset when I was talking to (insert guy's name) and that was wrong of me to do, but it hurt my feelings when you practically ditched me." That way you'll be putting things into perspective for him and letting him know that you're not okay with him ditching you like that.
If you lay your words out in a way that will put him in your shoes, he'll be able to understand what was going through your mind when you were flirting with that guy on prom night. If you words show sensitivity, that you got hurt when he ditched you, he will see that you care what he does and that he can still hurt you. It shows vulnerability, which will be necessary from both of you if you're wanting to rekindle a relationship.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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