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i'm 18/female. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 amazing months. we've been best friends for several years and our relationship is awesome. it was an instant connection. we've even considered getting married in a few years because our connection was just amazing and our love goes really deep. we're both strong Christians and very open with each other. he'd told me when we first started dating that he'd struggled with porn. last night he told me that it had been gay porn and he still struggles with it. he said he thinks he might be attracted to guys and girls. he says he is still completely in love with me but wanted to be honest and didn't want this to break us up. i agreed to stay with him and try to help him though this. it's killing me though. i don't want to break up with him at all, but i have no idea what to do. i can't tell anybody because i'm the only one who knows so i'm doing this anonymously. my whole body is in physical pain struggling with this. i can't think straight. i need help. any advice from anybody out there would be great. tell me the truth please. that's what i want. please i'm begging. i don't know what to do or say. i want to "change" him, but i know i can't. it's his struggle but now i'm trying to help and i have no idea what to do. i don't want to turn him away anymore. i need him and he needs me. but i don't want to be used as a cover because he doesn't want anybody else to know. please help me. thank you.

Don't think of yourself being used as a "cover up" please.

WELL here's how I look at this. You said your both strong Christians. With that being said, I'm sure you also believe God works in mysterious ways and would never give you anything you couldn't handle.

FIRST you need to have a talk with him basically bluntly stating "I NEED to know, do you think your bi, or gay? You HAVE to be honest because it's only fair to me AND you too."

Weather he's bi or gay, he can't have you AND a man too. (I'm totally assuming you would NOT be ok him dating you AND a man) If you are considering that in order to keep the relationship, STOP.

You need to let him know, for your sake, he can never be with a man if he is dating you. There are too many disease out there, and that is still cheating.

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