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I just need someone else I guess to help me plan ahead on what I can do to help my family. I'll try to summarize as best as possible.

- My father lost a trial and is now serving 5 years.
- My mother has been sick since I was 9 with various things (pancreatic cancer, plus more.)
- I have five other brothers and sisters, two younger sisters still living at home and one younger brother is as well.

I came home after I heard my father was going into jail to help out, however, I wasn't given power over accounts or to pay bills or anything. My mother wanted to do it.

My father left a generous sum of money for my family to live off of, and then there was additional money in another account he wanted to roll over after his birthday so the taxes wouldn't be too heavy and use that to help support the big house my mother and my siblings are living in.

While I have been working and trying to just help clean up the house, my sisters stole my mother's debit card and has used it to buy $400 cell phones, a trip to Florida one weekend, fixing a friend's car, etc. They spent nearly $20,000 in about two months. (Again, my mother is sick and doesn't keep up with financial statements too well.)

When I found out, I and another sibling put a stop to it but all we could do is get the card canceled. (I couldn't get a hold of my mom at that second and we wanted to stop it before they spent any more.) Nothing they bought is really returnable. They broke the cell phone, and other things were from places where things it couldn't be returned, or like hotel room stays, etc.

My parents were told, but little was done. My sisters were told to get jobs and they would pay back the money, but it has been a month since then. My sisters are hanging out with friends and not working. I even offered to help them get jobs, and it's like pulling teeth.

My brother living here is working hard and paying for things with his own money to help support the house, as I am. If my father ends up staying for the full five years, I don't think even with us both working full time and the money pulled from my dad's savings that we could afford to keep the house running on our own for the next five years.

My questions are:
- What could I do to help maybe lower house payments or raise more money to help out?
- What can I do about my sisters that spent the money? My mom won't kick them out of the house or do much more than yell at them.
- How does parole work and what is the likelihood of it happening? (I live in Louisiana if that's needed.)
- My mother thinks she can get on disability, and it would help if she could, but I was wondering with so much money in her account from the stock, would the government say she has too much to take in disability?

We can't sell the house, not in the current condition and with no one buying, we'd be paying mortgage and rent if we were to move someplace smaller.

Anyone have some ideas? I really appreciate any thoughts.

FIRST: If you did do something legal regarding your sisters taking money in the way that they did, Nothing would happen unless your mother pressed charges and sought legal action; UNLESS you are power of attorney over the money, and assets.

Second,Disability isn't income based.. it's based on your mom's ability to work or not due to medical reasons. So, she can apply for it and hire an attorney before she does apply in effort of avoiding red tape.

THIRD: I take my hat off to you and your brother for working to help your mom take care of the house. In regards to saving the house, there is nothing you can do legally on that unless your name is on the house. However, if your mom applies to disability then, her assigned caseworker can step in and help her with additional assistance available for her. Be sure she seeks legal advice and representation before applying for disability!!!

Good Luck and I am praying for you. I encourage your mom to apply for disability!!

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(Rating: 5) Thank you SO much. You have been a great help and thank you so much for the prayers. I'll be getting her to apply for disability with a lawyer, and get things under way. I don't know what to do with my sisters, but while I might not be able to do anything legally, there's nothing legally saying I have to support them now. ;) I home Karma is generous with them.
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