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okay so whoever manages to solve this one deserves a gold medal. ill try to make this as short as possible.
ive been dating my bf for 3 and 1/2 months and im VERY affectionate, hopeless romantic, etc. I realized he isnt. and last night i found out why.
see what he would do is tell me he loves me and wants to be with me, but then he wouldnt really show it too much. i could tell he was holding back. A LOT. he didnt really show me his true feelings. i always was patient with him because i knew hes been through a lot. but last night i found out just the extent of his experiences in love. he dated this girl that really MESSED him up. he loved her so much and was happiest when he was with her, but then she did the worst thing imaginable. worse than cheating. however even after the incident he still wanted to be with her. eventually she cut him off completely and i dint think he ever had closure with her. he hates her now but i think deep down he still loves her. and the thing is he doesn't want to have anything to do with her, and he always tells me he cant believe im real, that no one has ever treating him like i do, but at the same time i still feel like he cant be completely true with me or love me to the fullest because he doesn't wanna suffer like he did again. i don't know how to help him, and the thing is there is a quite big age gap between us me being 18 and him being 26. i haven't gone through half the stuff he has and because of that he still sees me as young, and kinda naive, and therefore unable to understand what hes been through, and hes right i cant FEEL it, but i understand it, i could cry for him thats how much it affects me. but he tells me not to worry and just be happy. i just wish i could help him get over this horrible girl/incident that happened to him, but hes not really letting me. we cant really have an amazing relationship if hes not letting himself open up again. hes just so affected by it....what can i do???? (link)
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Ok, you know what.. I'm just going to tell you like it is. He's just not that into you. If he was that into you, he'd walk through fire to bring you a glass of water. Stop it with all the guessing or trying to figure him out. He's simply not THAT into you. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with YOU. He's got issues. Why waste time begging, pleading and cajoling a man with such emotional baggage into doing what he should be doing as a man and that's adoring you the way you deserve. Yes, you love him but it takes more than love baby. Don't settle for 2nd best.
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Rating: 5
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youre right. i think. but i still dont know what to do. should i just break up with him?
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