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I'm usually pretty quiet. I have a small group of "closer" friends, maybe 8 or so. Then I don't really have any other people I would consider "friends". More like "acquantices"[sp?].
In school, I'm really shy and I probably just appear unapproachable because I'm not really social. At home, I LOVE it. My dad is amazing and he's really involved in my life. If I had to choose between him or my friends, it would definitely be him. Well, most of my friends are pretty social. They have a lot of friends and hang out with people every weekend. I'm always invited to stuff, but I always make up excuses not to go... but any time I DO end up going to the mall with my friends, I have fun. However, I'm always a bit reluctant to make plans with people. I just feel better staying at home and watching tv or reading or something then I do hanging out with my friends. I can't really understand why I'm so reluctant to have fun with my friends, but when my dad wants to take me some place, I really want to go. Isn't it usually the other way around with teenagers? You know, they want to spend as much time away from their parents? I don't know, I just feel really antisocial. Like, I don't have as many friends as some other people... I don't want to miss out on the highschool experience because I'm off spending time with dear old dad...but I just have more fun. Sorry, I got a little off track, but how can I become more social? Like make some new friends, hang out with them more and stuff?
Thanks!
Well for one, there's nothing wrong with you because you're closer to your dad than your friends. Hanging with your dad is your comfort zone and getting out of it would be pretty tough to do. For one, you should try not to cancel plans with your friends. Although you might prefer to stay home, you have to ease your way into hanging with them. The first couple of times would be uncomfortable but in the end it will help you become more social. You need to ask yourseslf what the specific reason is that you don't like hanging out. Is it because you're scared of what your friends might do? Is it because you feel they're pitying you? Other than that, try what I suggested and see if it works for you. :D
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thanks! Great advice by the way! :)
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