14/f...sorry about the length
Umm... so there's this guy that I've liked for like a week... and the other day he told me he liked me and asked me out. Just to get it straight, I've been asked out a lot, but I've turned them all down.
I told him since we hadn't known each other that long, we should wait a school week and see what happens... I really like him... he's a total sweetheart and is adorable and funny.
But here's were my self-awareness and fear of opinions comes in... he's sort of small... like maybe more than a few inches shorter than me. I'm only a few months older than him, but he looks like he could be a 6th grader (we're in 8th grade). Also, a lot of people think he's gay... haha... usually it's the boys. I think it's mostly because he's ADORABLE and because he has a bit of a lisp and his voice is sort of high... haha but I know he isn't gay because he's gone out with JUST girls before and he calls other people fags all the time. ;D Almost all the girls I know love him though, popular and not popular. He's just so cute and funny, I guess it's hard to NOT like him.
Now my school image isn't the only thing that's scaring me... it's also my parents. I've never had a boyfriend, and they always tell me that all of my boyfriends have to SIT DOWN AND TALK to my parents, and then DO CHORES. I don't know what goes through their minds... It's torture.
So I'm pretty sure my mom would LOVE him... but IDK about my dad... he's going to be, like, breathing down his neck, then he'll think he's gay.
So what should I do? The more I talk to him the more I like him (we've been talking non-stop over the weekend), and he's really really sweet. He's NOT creepy at all like some other guys who have liked me. All of my friends are just telling me to go for it... but...still... it makes me so nervous to think about it.
So do you think it's worth it? And what should I do with the parent situation if it IS worth it? I know I might sound contradicting and really shallow, but that's why I need the help.
Thank you sooo much.! :)
I think you should definitely go for it. I've dated guys that are a foot taller than me and ones that are at least four inches shorter than me. All that matters is if you're attracted to them and if they treat you well. Don't let what people say bother you. When I've dated shorter guys, no one has ever mentioned to me that they're shorter than me. It sounds like he's sweet and a good guy, so I would say yes if I liked him.
As far as your parents go, are you sure they weren't joking about making him do chores? I know my father always joked around about being overprotective about me, just because it's the stereotypical thing for a father to do when his daughter starts dating. If you think they're really going to force him to do chores, talk to them about it before you introduce your boyfriend to them. Tell them they you would really appreciate it if they just take the time to get to know him, and not completely embarrass you right away (ha). I'm sure once you talk to them about it, you'll see that everything will be okay.
Darby(:
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thank you sooo much :) this was extremely helpful!! also thank you for not criticizing me... i hate when people do that.
thanks soo much again : D
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