I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Member Since: January 17, 2009
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Last Update: September 11, 2011
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15/F
Okay so theres this guy that i actually really really like.
hes one of those guys who just seems to have that something over you?you know where you just cant say no or resist them. maybe thats just me i dont know but anyway..
the problem is just that.. okay so he lives in a different county to me (like states in the US although not as a far about an hour or so away)and we met through our dads they are both in the army and through a sports club too.
and we kissed a couple of times and we would text alot. but sometimes he would text me non stop then suddenly not and we wouldnt talk for weeks. then suddenly he would text me being all flirty again.
We both know we could never work out as a couple because of the distance its more of a hook up thing when we see each other if either of us arent with somebody.
so weve got this thing coming up next weekend and he said to my friend "im gonna get with Jess this weekend"
this annoyed me in a way because its like he knows im there to have if he wants and making me out to be easy,and i hate him thinking that makes me feel used in a way.
but on the other hand like i said hes just got the iristable factor and even if we were to hook up again we would both be just in it for like fun if thats the right word you know nothing serious.
I dont know if i should or not though im kind of in two frames of mind does anyone have any advice or opinions on what they think i should do?or what youd do if you were me =]
any help is really apriciated sorry its long!
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You're only 15. You should NOT hook up with this guy, or any guy. He does sound like a user. If you don't resist, you will feel bad about yourself when he doesn't call anymore, after the fact. Or he may call again just to get more of what he wants.
Personally, guys like that give me the creeps, but, it's your call. The best way to test where a relationship is going is to not have sex for the first year. You'll know whose in it for the long haul and who's not.
I'm so happy to hear you are smart enough not to take this that far (sex). Sorry for the misunderstanding, but, I've read so many questions on this site about girls who are doing all kinds of sexual things at such a young age that I automatically assumed that was what your question was about. You are a girl with a head on your shoulders and you don't need this guy. He sounds like he's just playing games. There are people out there (boys and girls) who love to play the game as long as they don't get caught. It's the game that excites them. Stay away from that type. Wait for the right guy who calls you and can't wait to call you again. You'll find him someday.
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hey thanks=] but i didnt mean sex at all! im not like that ive never done it and dont wanna think about it for a good while yet and hes not like that either its only like making out ive only ever just kissed him and i think thats all he expects from me thats what i meant sorry for the confusion and thanks for the advice =]
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