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hello, im 15 f, and im cuban.
my boyfriend is 18 black and mexican.
heres the thing, my parents just recently found out that me and him are dating, and they fliped out. they say im nasty for liking a black guy, and that im only putting myself down and that im too pretty and light skined for him and etc.. i really dont know what to do cause i like him alot and i dont want to loose him over something so dumb like his skin color. and he isnt even that dark! hes like chris brown dark. and he dresses very nice, and is a good kid. i have to talk to my parents today. how can i convince them to let me be with him? oh and my dad was saying things like what would people think? and how it looks bad for someone whos white to be with someone whos black. (link)
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Now I'm coming from a black womans perspective. Your parents are coming from a place of ignorance. They don't understand black people and rather watch cops and MTV to get their info. Now for you, if he treats you right and makes you happy then go for it. Its not in my DNA to be a hater. However, I am a black woman and it can be hurtful to other black women to consistanly see every single black man go for anything that isn't black. Now since that has nothing to do with your happiness in your relationship as well as your poarents thoughts do u boo boo. You're only 15, who knows what kind of men will be there in your future. Your main goal should be to find someone who loves and respects you. Seeing as that is soo hard to find, keep ahold of your relationship and keep it strong because there are folk in this world who will not understand it and because they can't find love they will try and make things hard for you two. Also keep in mind that your parents want the best for you, but they are missing knowledge to properly judge the guy u r with. Just don't get in trouble and good luck! Much Love!
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thank you so much! and i talked to them, and they are still aginst it. they even made me call him in front of them and tell him i couldnt talk to him at all. and my mom told him that if she found out were together she'll call the cops :/ but he said he cares about me, and is gonna stay with me. so were jus gonna keeep me and him on the DL. thanks again for you advice! (:
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