I go to an all-girl school, so, naturally, this makes it a tad harder to meet guys. This still doesn't make it normal that I know no guys because every girl I know talks about guys, guys, and more guys.
Anyway, I have issues with friends. We don't hang out on the weekends because they don't invite me and I feel unwanted. So, people often offer the advice "Meet a guy through your girl friends!" It doesn't apply here because I really don't have real girl friends.
The thing is, I feel so damn empty and I really can't stand it. I don't know where to meet a guy. I don't even know how to make friends. And to top this all off, I am really overweight. I mean really, I could lose 100 lbs and be normal weight, or slightly underweight.
I know that a guy will not make me feel less empty and another person cannot solve my problems, but I feel like I don't know what to do and even if I found solutions, I wouldn't know how to pursue them.
My main question is: Where can I meet guys?
And how can I not repel them?
First, you need to gain confidence in yourself. If you feel like you need to lose weight, try diet and exercise. Even if you don't lose 100 lbs or anything near it, exercising will make you feel better in general.
There are many good places to meet guys depending on your personal interests. If you like reading, try meeting a guy at a library. If you like coffee and interesting conversation, go to your local cafe and try to strike up a conversation with someone.
Don't limit your search to males. By meeting girls, you'll be able to go out with a group of girls and not feel so alone in your pursuit of a good guy.
Don't think that you're going to repel guys. Even if you are overweight, it doesn't mean that you're not pretty. Plus, your personality can do 90% of the work. I know tons of people that aren't great looking, but always have boy/girlfriends.
It's all about a fun-loving, positive personality. Most people like being around people that have a positive aura and energy about them. Once you start feeling more positive about yourself and your life, people will be able to feel that positivity when they're around you.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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Yeah, I've been dieting & exercising & I've lost 50 lb. But, still, like I don't know how to strike up conversation without sounding like I'm using small talk, you know? I'm just real awkward and I know that if I continue to think that I'm so awkward, I really will be. I just don't want to be the kind of person who percieves herself as better than she is, even though that's healthier than seeing myself worse than what I am.
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