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Me & my fiance are planning on getting married in October. I really like his parents, but his family & my family are like complete opposites. His parents are super-strict Christians, while mine curse a lot.

We were planning on maybe doing a Halloween themed wedding, but as soon as we told his parents that they freaked out. So, I was trying to I guess bargain with them so I said the wedding will be more fall themed & the reception is going to be Halloween themed.

Like most girls, I've dreamed about my wedding since I was young, & I've never wanted a classic wedding. Me & my fiance are metal-heads, sort of. We love metal music, tattoos, & piercings, so everyone who knows me knows my wedding is not going to be the classic wedding. I was telling his mom about the dress I picked out which is white with red designs on it, & she started saying that wearing anything but white isn't scared or something.

Then we brought up the music, because we will be playing metal music & I won't be walking down the aisle to the classic "here comes the bride".

Again, she said that it's not sacred & we should want "God's blessings". I believe in God, sure, but I just think they take things a little too far. She didn't even like the idea of possibly using black & orange flowers (because black is the symbol of death).

I really like his parents & I've been breaking my neck trying to be respectful when I'm around them (they have a super strict dress code), but this is my wedding & I want it my way, but I just don't know what I can do to not upset them.

Any advice?

I totally agree with "hitler the goat". It is YOUR wedding. It will be one of the most important and memorable days of YOUR life. It is something that YOU have dreamed of since you were a little girl. As long as both you and your fiance are happy with it, thats what matters. If you go along with what they want and dont do what you want, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Yes, maybe it will be a little akward at first, telling them what your decisions are and them seeing what you will be doing at first, but once its all said and done and your partying and your reception, you will be the happiest woman alive and so glad you put your foot down. Dont let them mess up your big day.

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