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Q: Ok... I basically just led some guy on... I met him on myspace and he added me because he was just adding random people and I live in the same town as him. Well I always talk to everyone who adds me... I don't like adding people as friends until I at least have one conversation with them. So we started talking and all and he was nice and then we were texting. Today is saturday and we've only been texting since about tuesday. Apparently I'm his girlfriend now :/ I'm sooo confused because I told him I didn't want him to call me his girlfriend yet because I had only agreed to go on ONE date just to MEET him. I told him I'd just gotten out of a bad relationship and everything and he said he understood and would wait and stuff. Then he started being really sweet and he put up on his myspace how I make him happy and stuff :/ I didn't want to seem mean so I did the same. Yeah I know, I'm stupid to have done that... So now, after the "date" which was TERRIBLE because I'm really shy and so was he, he thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend??? :/ I mean... I didn't tell him the date was terrible... I actually told him it was amazing -_- he asked me to my face how it went for me and I panicked... so yeah I've basically led this poor guy on and I DON'T WANT TO DATE HIM. I'm pretty much avoiding him right now. He doesn't go to my school so the only way I'd ever see him is if him and I planned a date or something... but I just really don't like being supposedly taken :/ I hate getting boyfriends because I seriously suck at committing... please help me :( I know I should have just told him the truth and not encouraging him by returning his sweetness... but I just really don't want to date anyone right now :/ plus he's like 17 which is about 3 years older then me because I JUST turned 15 about a week ago. I feel really bad :( help please?
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I don't think that is really your fault. You have been friendly with him and agreed to meet up with him, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything. Loads of people talk over the internet, get on well and meet up, and it doesn't mean they're more than friends.
You're not wrong to have done this and assumed he would just see it as a friendly thing. Even if you both referred to your meeting up as a date, most people wouldn't refer to themselves as a couple after one date.
However, now he does think you are together, and to carry on letting him think that WOULD be leading him on.
Explain to him that you just want to be friends. Don't say anything like, "because I've just got out of a bad relationship", because then he'll think he has a chance with you once he's waited a bit. Just quite clearly say, "I'm sorry, but I just want to be friends with you."
Yes, he might be upset, but it will be worse for both of you if you just carry on.
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thanks so much... youre right i just need to tell him straight out...thanks :)
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Website: Gender: Female Location: Norfolk, England Occupation: A-Level Student Age: 18 Member Since: March 11, 2006 Answers: 162 Last Update: September 14, 2011 Visitors: 10948
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