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So i really really like this guy i mean he's all i think about and its the first time that this has really happend and its just crazy. We have hung out before and we kissed and he was so super sweet to me and he said he liked me a lot so it made me feel great. The thing is i dont know what he wants i dont know if it will be a relationship or what it will be. i really want a relationship because i care about him so much. I don't want to be to blunt about it because im afraid im reading to much into this that in reality he doesnt like me enough or want to be with me. He has been all ive been thinking about for awhile and i don't know what to do because its killing me not knowing whats going to happen with us. He will talk to me and call me on the weekends but during the week its like i have to text him i try not to get to upset about this because he has a life and i get that. Please help me out i know i need to just ask him but how do i do it amd what do i say?
No offense to the other collumnists, but the last thing I would do is have a friend confront him about YOUR potential relationship. What if HIS friends came up to you out of the blue and asked for an official answer? It's childish and not a very reliable way to know how he feels.
Now that's not to say your friends aren't an important part of why you want to label yourselves as 'dating' or 'not dating'.. for example, you could say to him either in person or over the phone, "my friends asked if we were dating and i didn't really know what to tell them. I would like to go out with you, but i don't know what you're looking for right now or how you feel about it." It's pretty straight-forward because it gives you a chance to tell him how you really feel, and him a chance to make a decision that will be best for both of you!
Another piece of advice, though: if you're getting so worked up about all this and you're not even dating yet, how are you going to act when another girl hits on him, or you have your first fight, or any other problem that could come up? I think you might need to work on not being possessive. Sharing your life with someone doesn't mean you gain any control over them, and it shouldn't cause more stress than good.. it should be something that both people want and think will be best for them.
Keep in mind there are other options, too!
Hope this helps
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Thanks for the advice. I understand what ur saying but the only reason im so worked up about it is because hes the first guy i have really liked and i dont just want to give it up. I wont be possesive because thats not the kind of person i am. But thank you very much i talked to him about it and were going to try to make it work so all i can do is wait and see.
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