Member Since: April 23, 2009
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now and I'm not sure where it's headed. I'm 32, he's almost 35. I'm a divorced single mom of two kids, he's never been married and doesn't have kids. We both have our own place and are both very independent people. During the week, he usually comes to my house for dinner and stays for an hour or 2. Friday and Saturday nights my kids and I are at his house. And we usually spend the night on Saturdays. He has a three bedroom house and has practically given my kids a room for when they're over there.
We spend 90% of our free time together and rarely ever fight. We are really great together, but I'm beginning to think it's because we never talk about stuff. He's admitted that he's afraid of committment and he rarely talks about his past. Neither one of us has said "I love you" to each other yet. Although, he did tell me the only things he loves in his life are his dogs and his Jeep. Everytime I try to talk about how I feel about him, he completely changes the subject. Every single time! He never wants to talk about it. The time we spend together is mostly spent watching a movie or a show on tv. So I only have a few chances to talk to him.
I don't want everything to go fast. But I don't understand why he doesn't even want to talk to me about us. He complains about not having any money and that I don't go to his house enough. But when I mention moving in together, he says it would be a long time from now. I don't know what to do. I want to get married again, not now, but eventually, but if he can't even committ to the "L" word after 11 months, it'll be another year or two before we'll be living together. I would just like to have confidence that our relationship will progress. Right now, I'm not confident at all. Instead, I'm getting a little irritated. This man is the man for me...in alot of ways, and I could see us together for a long time, but each day that goes by, I get more and more angry at him. I am in love with him, and I don't want to fall out of love with him. Help!! (link)
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I can give you my opinion. This man does NOT want to Commit. Your wasting your time, while he's getting what he wants from this relationship,(if you know what I mean.) I wouldn't Waste Anymore Time. He doesn't Love You. Dump him ! I think Dr. Laura, would tell you the same thing. :) Concentrate on raising your kids putting them first. Your young, Love will come, be patient. Be Happy. Good Luck
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I don't think you really read what I wrote. An 11 month relationship of rarely fighting and being on each other's good side should not end just because we haven't said I love you to each other. I don't agree with your advice at all.
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