I smile,laugh,love,and live in the moment. I don't think lifes worth wasteing on a boring day. I am happy and with who I am. lifes about friends who hold on to you,the people who you love and return it. I don't believe in changing for anyone, i can say that everything happens for a reason and if its not a good ending,then its not over. I Love music, and interested in anything to do with style,makeup,and fashion. I also love heroes, south park, and family guy :]. I'm done with the fake people,i've basically dropped all who never cared. and i'm actually happy,i feel so much better ! I've been through it,the friends,family,and the whole finding yourself. And i think Marylous Coffee is bomb.I have the most amazing friends; and i'm so lucky to have those crazy bitches >:}.I'm obbsessed with Harry Potter
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I can't seem to be able to let anyone in. As soon as anyone gets close to knowing me, or in anyway just close to me, I push them away. How do I stop shutting people out. I don't talk the person I consider my bestfriend really. I'm a listener not a talker. Theres no use in complaining about my problems, it doesnt do anything. I just want to be able to get close to someone, anyone. How do I do this? (link)
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Normally i would write out everything that i've learned in my life about this,i was exactly like you! but i'm running out of time on my labtop so sadly i cant (besides, it'd be lots to read and i usually repeat myself =P) but i've found a great website of tips that'll help you and give you a start-
http://www.wikihow.com/Not-Care-What-People-Think
^you must learn to do this before you can break the barriers of letting people in! side notes : use the "fake it 'till you make it" method- confidence wise. Meaning if you're insecure, ACT confident and secure-you'll soon feel that way. "find the funny" - meaning laugh in every bad or embarissing situtaion! Dont let humiluating things get to you - just think "whoops :p!" and laugh it off-it'll help loads ;D.
Don't over think. If you catch yourself planning out what you're gunna say- STOP. Stop in your tracks and think up of any random thing,sing a song in your head or just say "BLAH BLAH balhlaalhlablah" in your head till you think of something else. You can't plan things-it never works out. Being insecure and caring what people think is a state of mind and is only in the mind. Change your thinking to "I am confident and independent!" Don't get down if you say something stupid, it happens- remember to laugh it off-it'll all work out later. besides, embarissing stories are fun to tell and break the ice in many conversations ;D! Your strong, and trust is hard for you. Your not alone! Set a goal each day like "I'm going to smile at someone in the hall today" or "I have to meet at least 3 new people today!" Start small,work your way up :D! I'm sorry i couldn't give more advice, i'm already in a hurry right now XP! Type in google thinks like "How to be more trusting" or "How to be confident" and you'll get some really good things! Its a common thing to feel this way-everyone does at least once in their life time! You must love yourself before people can love you!
ps; new situation? tackel it with excitement instead of nervousness. instead of being like "I'm so nervous to talk to those people" think "I can't wait to lean more about them :}" change your thinking to positive and people will catch your vibes
hahah sorry this is scattered but i know how you feel,i can relate so much! as long as you feel good and happy, dont worry about anything else-so start with that :D hope i helped! good luck,you'll soon be more confident and happy =]
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Wow! That was a lot to read. Thanks so much though. I really appreciate it. I'll try it out. Thanks again. Take care.
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