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before i start, let me begin by saying that i'm 18 years old, it's not like i'm some bratty teenager running away for no reason. but, honestly, i can't live in this house anymore. this is a mess. i'm not planning on running away forever, but these people have to miss me. i feel kind of bad about it, but i'm so mad right now, that i can't get over it. i'm 18 years old, i'm in college, and i don't even drive a car. i'm the only person in my family who doesn't drive a car. my mom drives a bmw and my family owns a lot. in high school, i was the angel of the class. i'm a straight A student, i didn't even go away for college. i've never gotten drunk in my life, never smoked. my best friend is literally my mother. i've never even slept over at anyone's house before. literally, i've been an angel. but, my family had other priorities than paying my insurance. they bought me cars, and then they never let me drive them because they hadn't put insurance on me. there is absolutely no point in that.... what so ever. so yes, i'm a little bit frustrated that my family keeps treating me like a child. right now, i'm on break and i wanted to go the gym to a spinning class at 12:15.... no one can take me. my grandmother is going to the doctor, and my mom and i got into a huge fight this morning and we're not speaking... plus she's at work. my cousin in 16 yrs old and he's the one i have to ask for rides. i'm sorry but this is ridiculous. my mother started the fight with me this morning and it just kept accelerating and accelerating and she left really angry, and i'm really angry. my grandmother won't even let me stay home alone. i know that i'm young, but i think i'm old enough to drive a car, and stay home alone, so that i can work on my term paper. so, yea i'm pissed. i need to find a way to run away for a little while... i can walk from here to the library... and at least i'll feel a little more independent that i can do that by myself. i just need to get out of here for a while... and i don't know how to do it without anyone noticing. i'm about to have a heart attack in here. it's a mess all the time, and no matter how much i clean, it's still a mess. i just can't do this anymore. can someone please help me?? and please don't answer if your answer is not to run away. i'm an adult, and i've already decided for myself. i'm just asking for advice on how to do it. (link)
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I hope you don't mind that this is a really long answer. I hope you read it though.
First of all, don't behave childishly if you want your parents to begin to see you as an adult. You may feel like you need to "run away", but to be honest, you're eighteen so it isn't really "running away". Try to calm down, even though you're frustrated, and figure out if you want to continue living with your parents or get out on your own.
Getting out on your own is hard, and it won't happen overnight. If you want to get out on your own, start by talking to your parents about it. You might be surprised, and they might actually be very helpful. If they are not, it doesn't matter because you are 18 and can move out if you are willing to take responsibility for yourself financially.
You need to know how much it is going to cost, and there are many options you can consider to live for less while you are in college. You will need to get a job, but you can make due on part-time work. Many college students do this. It's hard without a car, but you can carpool or take public transportation if it is available in your area. Also, you can get a bike.
Check local listings for apartments in the area. Find out how much they cost, and if you can afford it. You can get an apartment with room mates to save money. Usually the rent and bills of a two bedroom apartment divided by two is less than the rent and bills of a one bedroom apartment all by yourself. As a student, if you work at least 20 hours a week you can apply for government assistance with food (aka "EBT" or "food stamps") You can also apply for income-based housing. You will have to fill out a lot of paperwork to apply, but the rent is very cheap, and they are usually reasonably nice places. Look for "income-based housing" in your area. You can also move into the dormitories at your college (assuming your college offers housing). This is often more expensive than just getting an apartment, though, but dorm life can help you meet a lot of people and make plenty of new friends. Also, you'll be right there at the school, so you don't have to worry about getting a ride if you can't drive. AND you can probably apply for a job on campus. Colleges have student employment that is either under the Federal Work Study program or just a regular job. Then you don't have to worry about transportation to work.
I hope some of these suggestions have been helpful. Just remember that with freedom comes responsibility. With responsibility comes freedom. If you take responsibility for yourself and stop relying on your parents, you will have the freedom to live your life the way you wish. You are an adult now. You are in college. I know getting out on your own is very difficult, but your parents may never treat you like an adult if you do not do it.
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you are right... i was angry when i was writing this and i guess i was acting a little irrational, but there are many options and i will look into them. thank you :)
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