I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Member Since: January 17, 2009
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Last Update: September 11, 2011
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So ealier I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, (not my first time, ours like in our relationship) ...
We were kissing and he pulled it out and was trying to put it in and I realize, there's no condom! I ask "Do u have a condom on?" He said "No, i'll get it in a minute. I don't want to get up." A MINUTE?! YOU DON'T want to get up?! So I made him stop and go "find" one because he didn't know where one was! Can you please tell me what could have been going through his head? I'm pretty sure I should take this as a red flag! How should I confront him about it? I'm so disappointed in him because I THOUGHT we were great for each other! (link)
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Well...in the heat of the moment, there was only one thing going through his head, literally and figuratively.
Men don't do alot of thinking in a situation like that. It's just their nature. I wouldn't make more of it than that, but, emphasize to him that you cannot risk getting pregnant and that the next time you have sex, he must have a condom ready or there will be no sex. Don't do it in the heat of the moment as he will not be thinking straight.
How to confront him...just talk to him. It's really not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. I'm sure he will even agree with you.
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thaaaank you. I feel so much better! =)
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