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Q: okay so i have this friend. we've been friends now for like two or three years. it's been a little hard because we don't live in the same town or go to the same high school. but we've always been able to make it work.
lately though, she's been just not a very good friend to me. she'll like start conflicts over absolutely nothing and put words in my mouth. you know? like she'll just jump to conclusions based on one little thing. or she'll pick a fight with me and then claim that 'she had no idea she was starting something' when let's face it, she does know she was starting something...she's not that great at acting.

on the good days, i do actually value her friendship and i really don't want to lose her. how do i tell her to stop without losing her?

and please don't just say to ditch her or whatever because i really do want to still be her friend...

thanks
-16/f

well i cant tell you to drop a friend specially if you guys were once close. i say sit her down and just be straight with her. tell her why she is making you mad and try to be understanding [there's always 2 sides to every story]
if she's the type that picks fights just take control of yourself and admit to everything she says, it'll make her feel like she "won" and she will just let go of it...
i understand everything about how you value her friendship and if you do, do what you can to keep her as long as she doesnt take you for granted because im sure you're an awesome person

boyycrazy :]

Rating: 3

good advice i suppose, just a little too generic. and you said "admit to everything she says, it'll make her feel like she "won" and she will just let go of it" but then you go on to say "do what you can to keep her as long as she doesnt take you for granted"...so basically you want me to let her walk all over me during fights, but in a way that's not taking me for granted? looks like you've got yourself a doublestandard there.

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