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K well I am Cassandra I decided to do this because in my group of friends(&all of thier friends it seems lol) I seem to always be the one everybody asks everything to. I figure well maybe if Im good at it I should if not I guess I will find out for sure huh? Then I ll just go back to writing like 50 poems and songs lol xp So ask me anything and I will try my absolute hardest to help you I promise! =)
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Me and my ex just started talking on saturday. we had gone out for 4 months, and he lost his virginity to me and everything. i messed up with him big time though in the past because i ended up breaking up with him to be with another guy. We have been acting towards each other completely normal, as if we had never broken up to begin with, thanks to the fact that i apologized to him and told him how horrible i felt about what i did. & honestly he is the best boyfriend i've ever had, but at school he doesnt want people to know that we're talking again because their going to start talking crap. i just wish it would be okay with him if we could AT LEAST act like we're friends, because if not i'd have to wait till after school to talk to him on the phone, and if i want to actually be with him i have to wait till the weekends. & i cant take that. how can i approach that subject with him in a way that i can convince him? & also, does it look bad that i'm getting back with him? (link)
Ok I dont know if its a brillant answer.But your issue is similar to mine I had a few months ago.Very similar.&now me and him are good friends and get along great and might possibly be more later.Ok so heres what we did that might help you. Im sure he still feels very betrayed and hurt bout what you did even if he doesnt show it to you.Guys dont usually like to be seen as vulnerable. So the best you can do is let him get over in his own time&get it out of his system the way he needs to.It sounds like you love the guy.Which is good because love is harder to find than people think. Just be there for him,be his friend when he needs you and show him that you are a good friend and would do anything to help him,and that you can handle being "just a friend"because friendship is the basis of a good relationship.Then in time things will work out as they should and he wont mind people seeing you two talk or what they say bout it.Because you seem to be a good person and Im positive that he knows that,he is just hurt that is all,give him time to get over what happened and start fresh with you.

-Best of luck
Cass


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thank you so much, i followed your advice and i didnt pressure him so much about us being in the public again, and he started talking to me today at school, and he even came and said hi to me a couple of times. thanks for the advice, it helped alot!




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