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I am a singer, but if I am not playing the part acting like someone else on stage, it is hard for me. I have to go on stage showing who I really am, and show my emotions through my music, but I get terrified because its like being naked in front of the world, and they can see my soul. Im the kind of person who generally keeps to myself, but my passion is to sing. I dont cry in front of people either, and singing for me is like that, because I am exposed. I dont have anything to hide, I am just causeous. Can anyone knock some sense into me per say, or knows of a way I can come out of this?

Yes, you're right. Singing with emotion and passion and making people feel your song IS hard. It's also arguably the most important part of singing.

Instead of seeing singing singing and emoting as two separate things, try to consider them as one and the same. Music making is essentially just another way to communicate and express your emotion, right? When there is no love behind it, the song is empty and useless. If you're not used to emoting on any other level, this can be your outlet.

There is no real trick to this. All you can do is start by easing yourself into it. Begin with practicing all alone in front of a mirror. If it helps, develop a stage persona, after all you said that you can play the part on stage when necessary. It's not really acting, your stage persona is just an extension of yourself. If you can separate what you would normally do from what you know you want to do, you can isolate it and concentrate your true feelings in a performance.

My band teacher always told us to "reinvent" our fear. If you can visualize this:

Take all of the fear you feel throughout your body. Imagine that you are taking the power of this anxiety and compacting it into a manageable form that you can hold, like a ball of light. Keep this "light ball" in your very core. This is now the energy that you will use on stage. You are no longer scared of anything, because all of the fear you had is now raw power that you will use to perform your heart out.

I've always thought it helpful to imagine that I'm by myself, especially when I first started singing.

It's scary, and hard to do at first. But when it gets right down to it, that's why we sing. We want everyone to know who we are, that we can be vulnerable and unstoppable at the same time. Everyone is supposed to get a good look at our souls. We connect that way.

Above all, take a chance, and never, EVER give up because you stumble. Work hard and try new things.

Good luck, and I hope this helped a little.

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(Rating: 5) Thankyou so much I will use what you said and work up from there!


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