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Hey i'm 17, i'm here because i've found myself needing help from an outsider too. so i want to do what i can to help all of you. because sometimes its nice to have an outsiders perspective. i wont judge, and i'll respond to questions asap. i'm very straight forward and honest in my answers. i understand that everyone needs someone to listen to them or help them. i've been there, so i'd love help anyone who's in a tough spot or just needs a friend. i love to talk, so hit me up and i'll do what i can to help you with your problems. be open in your questions, i promise they will be kept confidential =]good luck to everyone out there.

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There is this guy that I really like a lot. The thing is i've never met him. He lives a state over. Anyway I told my friend that I really liked him, and i'd talk about him and how great he really is. Well when I showed my friend his picture, she wanted to talk to him. So they started talking, she has nick names for him, they talk more than him and I do. I just don't get it, she flirts with him all the time, everytime they talk. She says that's just how she is with guys. Also she has a boyfriend. So i've pretty much hit rock bottom with what happened tonight. They were talking and she told me what part of what they were saying because it was funny. She said he needs to go to bed, and he said she needs to go to bed, then she said alright father, and he said i'd rather be your mother. At first she didnt get it either until she thought about it, and then she got what he was saying. He said that because the other night when they were talking he said something about being her mother and spanking her all the way to her bed or something. When she told me about that, I almost just broke down. She does that all the time. She talks to him and flirts with him and then reads me what their saying. I just can't understand any of it. She didnt want to talk to him until she saw his picture. I mean she knew that I liked him a lot and yet she still just flirts with him right in front of me or reads me their conversation. I guess what I wanted to know is, what do I do about this? Do I just forget about him, and move on? Do I...gosh I dont even know what I should do. He really is such a great guy. I just can't stand the fact that my best friend does this. She flirts with every guy she talks to whether she knows I like them or not, she even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend. And one time when we were at the movies I saw a really cute guy and I just wanted to point out that he was cute and she just says yeah he was staring at me. I just..I dont know what to do. She's my best friend really my only friend. Please just tell me what you think about all of this, and what you would do, or some things that ou could do in this situation. Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

well it sounds like she is VERY insecure. The reason she flirts with all these guys is because makes her feel desirable, and wanted. in a a way it validates her. as far as this particular guy goes, your "friend" really stepped over the line. the sad part is is she doesnt even realize what her actions are doing to you. the thing is, anyway you try to talk to her about it, she's just going to get defensive and deny it. so if i were you i'd let this guy go. because even in his flirting style he has no depth. why would you want a bf who used to talk to your bff in that way?. you want a guy who gives all women respect. so let this one go.. and the next guy you like, maybe dont tell your bff ;]. i hope this helps in any way!.. good luck. if you have anymore questions feel free to ask me =]

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it, and it helped. Thanks again
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