ask Smartone



read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators



I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.

I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Member Since: January 17, 2009
Answers: 281
Last Update: September 11, 2011
Visitors: 19506


I was wondering, AM I AN ALCOHOLIC?

Well, I've been noticing my weird behavior this days. And i really wanna know if i have a problem.

I love partying and drinking.

I love jack daniel and black label. I also drink wine sometimes but i drink beer more often.

I miss school sometimes because of my hangovers and for not sleeping well.

I don't communicate with people like before, i barely answer my phone, it's weird that i have new friends i don't talk to anyone.

I sometimes drink alone in my room, and sometimes i pass out.

i drink literally everyday, not drunk but even having at least 3 or 4 beers.

I do homework while drinking. I drink at school sometimes.

Sometimes i'm dying to get home from school to take a drink.

I hang out with friends more often than before, like i never stay home if i dont need to.

And when i say hang out, i mean chilling at a friend's house just drinking, and others smoking up hash.

I spend all my money on drinks. I would drink and not buy food.

And i've noticed that i drink more everyday to get my head fixed like the night before.

It's bothering me, the need for my drinks and everyday i woke up and go like "CRAP i did not do that yesterday" , or sometimes i just don;t remember some parts.

I got kicked out of a concert for picking a fight with a girl (im a girl), IT WAS embaressing

I made out with zillion of guys when im drunk.

I LOVE DRINKING, i love it's advantages but i can't deal with it's disadvantages, and my lifestyle is shit right now so i can't ask for help from doctor/parents, and if you're gonna suggest a close friend, EVERYONE DRINKS but not as much as me and my close friends.

Any kind of help. (link)
Wonder no more. You are an alcoholic.

You "..love it's advantages." Pray tell, what are it's advantages? I see none in your post. Your entire post is composed of disadvantages. You pick your friends because they drink. All alcoholics do that.

If you can't ask for help from your doctor or parents, then what are you looking for? There are no magic bullets in this kind of problem and your problem is quite severe. If I were you, I would run to the nearest AA meeting without hesitation, since you can't go to your doctor or parents.

PLEASE, do it before you destroy your life. You're young enough to get past this and leave it far behind. If you wait to tackle it, it'll be a problem for the rest of your life and it won't get better, it'll get worse.


Rating: 5
I agree with you, i didnt list any advantages cuz i thought everyone knows, it makes me relaxed, carefree and thinking about fun. HYPER and etc..

This little detial i havn't mention, i live in egypt (im austrlian), so here there is no AA and etc.. u have a problem u need a doctor and i cant get one.

Thanks anyways i will try to make stuff better.




read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>

eXTReMe Tracker