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13/F - he is 14/M

Okay here are just some questions for boys only (or girls if you think you can answer them) that protain to a problem I am having now: (please answer them like you would if you were 14)
1. Do boys ever play around with girls' emotions for the heck of it? Like do they ever just get a laugh out of messing around with a girl's feelings? If so, WHY??
2. What are boys' reactions when a girl starts crying?
3. What would a boy do if he likes a girl but doesn't want a girlfriend? What should the girl do in this situation?
4. I've heard a lot of diferent girls' opinions, but in you opinion do you prefer to chase a girl or have her come to you?
5. What ( in your boy opinion haha ) should a girl do if the boy she likes (and he says he likes her too) is ignoring her? If he likes her why would he ignore her??

Please help me out guys, this boy is really confusing me... And you say girls are confusing... Ha.

I am a girl but i have been the victim in most of these questions and i feel like i understand these kinds of guys well enough to try and help you understand them too.

1.) yes. guys are inconsiderate like that and some, not all, but some do it because it makes them feel better about themselves. i would know this because i have recently been a victim in that type of situation and the guys that do this are usually cocky, insecure, or trying to boost their ego in a way.
2.)when a girl starts crying guys are usually thinking, please make her stop crying. they do not know what to do or how to handle something like that. i have also been in that situation. when my boyfriend broke up with me i started crying really hard and he felt awkward and tried to hug me and say dont cry but i dont think he knew what to do.
3.)yet another question where i have expirienced this. haha well in some cases when a guy likes a girl but doesnt want a girlfriend, he will flirt with her. but REMEMBER- try not to get too attatched to this guy. because clearly if he doesnt want a girlfriend this cant be good. i hate to keep using myself as an example for you but its the only way for me to make myself more understandable as to why this is not such a good idea. well, i liked this guy and he liked me but he told me he did not want to go out with me or have a gf. a week later he started talking to me again and told me he liked someone else. then as time went on and we kept talking i realized he talked to other girls too the same way he talked to me. it hurt. so usually when a guy does not want a girlfriend it could mean he either likes someone else, feels there isnt enough time for her, or only wants to get ass but from other girls too. all of those being bad reasons which is a good enough reason for you to try not to get too involved in a guy like that.
4.) again, i am a girl but i feel that i can help you understand this. well usually guys tend to like it betetr if they chase after you. it makes it more exciting and sure some guys would like it if a girl went after them, in the begining. but if she does it too many times as in, more than once, then chances are he will not really enjoy it as much as him going after you. guys are just like that. they want what they cant have and feel that they should be the ones chasing instead. also, guys may like girls who are easy IN THE BEGINING but after a while they get bored of it because it isnt exciting for them since they are not chasing and are just getting what they want too easily. yep. ive been in this too. i was too easy and even chased after him once or twice [not litterally] and now he does not talk to them anymore. i think he got bored with me. so just a tip, make the guy chase after you. trust me
5.)well, if he says he likes you and is ignoring you, chances are he is confused. [ive been in this too. all of these questions, except one, refer to the same guy. yeah uh guys like this are not someone you wanna be with haha trust me on this] so basically he is probobly very confused about what he wants, he likes someone else or multiple girls, or is just plain confused about if he even still likes you. guys can be very confused people. especially ones like these where they dont know what they want. ALSO- if a guy treats you like an object/choice, he is not worth anything. i would know. haha
i really hope i helped you(: if you ever wanna talk just inbox mee

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(Rating: 5) Thank you! And by using yourself as an example, it really helped me understand.
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