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how can i deal with my strict mom?
*she wont let me talk on phone in my room (i have to be with her)and usually after I've talked for 10-20 minutes she has me hang up...and she doesn't even use the phone afterward!
*she wont let me buy earrings (she just says "oh well you just got some") yeah like 6 or more months ago (EVEN WITH MY OWN MONEY)
*she wont let me wear my hair how i want to (only in braids) AND she wont even let me do it myself
*when my friends are over she doesn't let us listen to music (on speakers ipod is fine though) even when u can barely hear it
what can i do?
*im female
*i cant say my age online so lets just say i'm a pre-teen
I totally understand how you feel. My parents were the same exact way.
The best thing you can do in this situation is to communicate. Wait till she's in a good mood, relaxed. Like when she's drinking tea quietly or sitting reading the paper, or whatever she does when she's relaxing. Then sit down close by and, respectfully (parents love respect) and calmly tell her how you feel and ask her why she does these things. You may be suprised at her reasons.
Most of the time it's because they are afraid you are going to make bad choices or be influenced to make bad choices. She's probably afraid for you for so many reasons.
If she tells you why, don't get angry if you don't like it. Just calmyly tell her how it's making you feel (frustrated, controlled, whatever). Then nicely ask for a little more freedom.
If she says no to the freedom, you may just have to endure it. Or, maybe have another adult you trust talk to her. Some adults respond better to other adults.
If she refuses to give you reasons why she does these things and tells you to just, "Do what I tell you to do!" which is what my parents did, just try your best to be on your best behavior. If she sees that she can trust you to behave, she may give you more freedom. Or, she just may be waiting till you're a little older.
I hope this helps. Hang in there.
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pretty good but i've tryed before to get my dad to talk to her it didnt work and i almost ALWAYS behave but maybe she is waiting til i'm older
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