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how can i deal with my strict mom?

*she wont let me talk on phone in my room (i have to be with her)and usually after I've talked for 10-20 minutes she has me hang up...and she doesn't even use the phone afterward!

*she wont let me buy earrings (she just says "oh well you just got some") yeah like 6 or more months ago (EVEN WITH MY OWN MONEY)

*she wont let me wear my hair how i want to (only in braids) AND she wont even let me do it myself

*when my friends are over she doesn't let us listen to music (on speakers ipod is fine though) even when u can barely hear it

what can i do?

*im female
*i cant say my age online so lets just say i'm a pre-teen

Wow, your mother does sound very strict. There are a few things that you can do to hopefully make her ease up on you.

First be a responsible and respectful young woman. Show your mom that you know right from wrong and that you have your head on right. Be respectful to her and any other elders you may be around and dont give her a hard time about things. Obey her rules.

Second, try getting her to let you do little things. For example, if you have a special event coming up, try getting her do let you wear your hair a different way than braids. For example if you have a school dance in a few weeks, tell her that you would really like it if she would consider letting you wear your hair a different way. Put the idea in her head a few weeks in advance so she has some time to think about it and if she says no, dont argue. But when you approach her with it, say it in a very nice and respectful manner.

Third, you can just come right out and talk to her about it. But make sure you pick the right time to do it and again be respectful. If you dont see her reasoning for not letting you do certain things, ask her. Try to see her point of view because you cant change her point of view until you understand it.

I hope I helped and good luck!

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(Rating: 4) my mom lets me wear my hair out on special occasions like dances and graduations.
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