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Q: i am not really a social person.
and these holidays i haven't planned or want to plan any thing with friends.

My parents continue to pressure me too but i don't want to. i am going through a phase when i'm not sure who my real friends are.

I don't want to tell them and if i don't organize i have to clean up our house.

Can you give me some advice on how to tell who my real friends are and how to want to be socialable with my friends.

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hi!

If you're not a social person,there's nothing bad about that.you are just being yourself and you seem to be a youngster who is very thoughtful about important things,like having good and real friends.well,it is already said by grownups that 'its better to be alone than with bad company'.but,you know,its not harmful to keep in touch and meet up with friends,who are around, once in a while.

they may not seem to be having the good qualities you want them to have,but still if you feel like,try accepting them and being nice to them,real friendships blossom at anytime,you just can say when!you may not be knowing what your friends really are[some of them might be real nice persons].try to find out,make fan fiction,or ask funny questions that can help you all discover something about each other.talk about your and their interests,try finding out what they like,what their hobbies are.develop some hobbies of your own!then they will appreciate that.your parents might just be worried that you're not social,so agree to what they say,and make them happy.but if you want,put a few conditions of your own!lol...

real friends can be anybody,who looks ordinary,who talks ordinary,but those who care for you,who like you,and share good moments with you.so try these ideas,good luck!

hey,I thank you for your positive feedback and the answer is- definitely stick to your friends who are nice to you,rather than choosing to be popular.see-the best part is- you know best already!but at the same time,i can also add that when you are nice to people,and once you get that reputation-you can actually transform the others who are sometimes bad to you.but for the time being-have fun with the people you are already friends with!

Thanks!

that is great advice..

I don't know of i could come up with something like that.

there is also something with the people i asociate with..

they pick on me..
on the last day of school this year that smashes a mayonaise sandwhich in my face and laughed.

sometimes we are good friends but others they are (pardon my language) assholes.

sorry, but should i continue to tollerate them to fit in with populars.. or be friends with others that i am friends with?

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