Member Since: December 27, 2008
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Last Update: January 3, 2009
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I have depression. It has alot to do with the fact that my father left me when i was little with my mom (who has paranoid schizophrenia). I was taken from my mom by child services when i was 2 and put in foster care for 3 years. Then my grandparents took me in and they are about the most disfunctional people you've ever met, little by little im being driven insane in this house. Everyday they tell me that im useless and selfish and ungrateful for what they have done for me, like i asked for this life and asked for them to take care of me! For the last 11 years (im 16 now) i've been given visitation rights with my mom for an hour every 2 months and in those visits i am the biggest bitch to her. I blame her for everything that has happened to me and for not caring enough about me to take medicine for her illness. When in reality i know none of its her fault and it makes me hate myself even more for thinking it, shes sick and she cant help it. For the last year i've been cutting myself, only one of my best friends knows, and have been put into therapy. Right away my doctor noticed that i should be put on medicine but my grandparents wont let me and im like a ticking time bomb. I lash out at everyone and i push away everyone that i ever cared about. I was such a bitch to my mother that i drove her to move, to Ireland! She moved 4 weeks ago and i just found out the other day, she left me just like my father did, without so much as a goodbye. I have nothing left, no body and i just want to die. I want to kill myself but i wont, im not strong enough to do it. What im basically asking is, how can i get help? I just want to be happy, how can i do it? (link)
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Hello. My name is CeeCee. I joined this site because unfortunately I have an enormous amount of life experience that includes major depression, bipolar disorder, committing myself to get help, medication for mental illness, life threatening illnesses, suicide are among some of them. I realized that I am fortunate too because I have so much to offer someone who is suffering in this life. I will spare you the details of my life, and I will only use general examples that express what I would like to explain to you. If you would like to know details, feel free to ask me and I will be honest with you. Please give me a chance to help you help yourself.
You have your hands full with issues that someone your age should not have to deal with. Your life should be fun and your heart should not be heavy. But, you were given life circumstances for a reason, like I was. The reasons won't be clear to you until you are thinking clearly and your mind isn't seemingly overloaded like you described happens to you at night. But, believe me when I tell you that one day you will be better. I spiraled down so far that I sat for hours a day stareing off into nothingness and I didn't speak. If I could come back from the things in my life that almost killed me, you can too.
It's actually a strong person who can reach out and ask for help. So, the first thing you have to do is to admit to yourself that you need help from someone close to you or from a professional person. The second thing you have to do is ALLOW yourself to accept help and to let the chosen person carry a little bit of your burdens. The third thing is to follow through on the work you begin to do for yourself to get better. By "follow through" I mean you have to put all of yourself into getting better and you have to participate in your is this process of getting better, because you will need to speak of what you need, how you are feeling, and you'll have to always remember that no one can read your mind. So staying pro-active in your process of healing you will have to speak. You will have to speak the words to describe exactly how you are feeling and all of the symptoms you have. You won't be able to get the proper help unless you can describe what it feels like to be you. And, getting the wrong kind of help will only mask your symptoms and later on down the road they will come back in a forceful way. The fourth thing you have to do is allow yourself to be at peace with your current state of mind. This step is important because if you don't accept the fact that you are in a depression right now, you will resist any help and most of all you will compound your issues and the whole process will take on another huge hurdle that really has nothing to do with any of your other symptoms because you created it and you've put a stigma on your condition. The stigma you believe will lead you in the direction where there is no help and you will eventually reach the point where you are only working very hard every day to surpress what is real inside of you.
Having said all of that, I would like to let you decide if you would like to continue communicating with me so that I can maybe help you figure out which direction to go in. Also, if you would like to know more about me because we continue communicating, please ask me anything and, like I said, I will answer you truthfully. I have so much more to say to you. But, this is your decision.
Be Well,
CeeCee
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You were really helpful, thank you. Alot of people think that by being in therapy that automatically your problems will be solved, i even thought so. But i never thought that it would be so hard to express feelings and emotions through words before. Half of the sessions are with me responding, "i dont know" to various questions and its almost a waste of time. But im really glad that you seem to understand and are trying to help people through your experiences. None of my friends even understand a portion of what im going through and i dont try to tell them because i know there are so many people worse off then me that it feels selfish to even bother. Alot of people dont understand why i hold on to the past so much and just say "forget about it" as if its possible on demand, but the past has shaped my present and i need to get a hold on it before it controls my future too. thank you
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