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Q: In 2000 my grandparents got divorced, by this time I was seven years old, & I didnt think old people was supposed to divorce, needless to say, my grandpa had found someone over the internet. He left my grandma, I see my grandma almost everyday, but in the past 8 years, I bet I could count on one hand how many times I've seen my papaw, and I could count on maybe three fingers how many times he's told me he loves me since the separation.
This Christmas was the first Christmas I'd seen my Grandpa in a longg time. I miss him soo much, I'm so afraid that I dont have much time to restore our relationship. And something else that doesnt help, this woman, that lives with him, wont even let me see him. I use to call, when I was little, to go over to their house to see him, and she would say that I wasnt invited, and it was rude to invite myself, and anyhow they were busy. I dont have any other grandpa, he died before I was born, and I'm just so angry, and hurt, that my grandpa, the only one I've ever had, wont even take the time to call me, to tell me he loves me, he wont even wave when he see's me.
I was watching this video tonight...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCoViK0G43Y&feature=related
& it instantly reminded me of him. He's not going to be here forever...
Please, I just need someone to talk to, someone to comfort me.
Thanks, all is appreciated.
15/Female

thats awful, im having family issues myself and i know how tough it can be, just remember to talk about it, do not bottle everything inside you. my advice to you would be to try and call him again and tell the woman he is living with about the situation if she still does not comply then i suggest you write a letter to your grandfather expressing how you feel, how you want your relationship to grow but every time you try some one else is pushing you away from him and it hurts you. Explain to your parents what you are doing and how you wish to send him that letter and if you dont get a response to that ask your mother/father to go over there and personally talk to them, because as you said he isnt going to be around forever and to show you care enough to go over and make things work. (the lady he is living with could be withholding info from him) but realistically there is always that risk that things may not work out, which is sad but its on your grandfather not you so never feel like its your responsibility for not making a great relationship with him. I honestly hope that everything works out for you though you seem like a very sweet girl.

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Brittni.

Rating: 5

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind.
However, after I've cried, I feel better. I don't know how to bring it up to my mother though, because it hurts her to talk about it.

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