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Q: 14/f
so, there was a sadie hawkins dance at my school. the guy that i planned on asking acted like a jerk right before i was about to ask him (long story) and i just couldn't ask him. so i asked my best guy friend. we've been like brother and sister for a little more than a year. this friend doesn't go to my school. so the dance comes and we go out to dinner, he refuses to let me pay for my own dinner, and everything is going great. when we get to the dance, we're just hanging out and i introduce him to all of my friends. when the first slow dance comes, he grabs me and pulls me reallllly close. we dance and we don't even talk while we're dancing. we just stare at each other and smile. when the song ends, we just stand there. he's holding me and i'm smiling and then one of my friends comes up and taps him on the shoulder. she says "you know the song's over right? you don't have to stand there like that..." and he just says "yeah i know." so the rest of the dance goes that way. after the dance, he says he had a really good time. after that, everything went back to normal. in school, i literally was asked 100 times 'are you going out with him?''you looked so cute together' blah blah. now, i'm thinking about him a lot more and i'm wondering...does he have a thing for me? could we be more than friends? help !

Awww... I think it's so cute! All of the signs say yes! he does have a thing for you. Great relationships include great friendships, so friendships that blossom into relationships are so much fun. It's really nice to have someone to make out with, but it's even better having someone you can talk to and be yourself with too. My guy and I have been friends since freshman year of high school, but we didn't start dating until the end of our junior year. All of the time that we spend as friends just made the relationship we have now that much stronger. So, go with confidence and make that next move! Ask him to get coffee or lunch or something with you, and make it clear that you want to spend more time with him.

Good luck and much love!

~TD

Rating: 5

thanks! he and i are going to go see a movie tonight =]

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I'm back after a hiatus! I have graduated college (yay!) and am working with Thoroughbred racehorses in Kentucky.

I enjoy giving advice to teens because now that I am older, I have a proper perspective of high school, but I am close enough in age that I don't think I'll come off as some idiot with adult problems that has no idea how teenage life works. Generally I answer love life questions, since that is where many self-image problems surface-not to mention it's highly confusing! If you are wondering about my own love life... well, I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are getting married once he finishes law school, and yes! We are high school sweethearts!

I also love giving advice to dog owners. I have grown up with dogs and currently have two mutt-butts of my own :) I have worked for several different veterinary clinics, including a vet school, I have taken tons of classes, as well as doing personal research.

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