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I'm kind helpfull and a really good listener.So i really hope i can help someone :)And im really good at evaluating stuff. and ill be sure to look up stuff first to make sur im right.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost four years, and I've never felt unpretty around him until this year. Recently he thinks I'm fat, the thing is I'm not at all - I am 5'8 and 140 lbs.

I recovered from an eating disorder just before I met him, and he knows this. I have learned to be happy with my body, but now with my boyfriend's constant negativity I'm starting to feel insecure.

He never says things so bluntly where I can get mad. What he'll do is say, "let's work out" and if i say I don't want to he calls me lazy and nag until I will. Or when we go out, he'll order me a diet coke and side saladn as my entire meal. When I say that's not what I wanted he says "I'm just helping you eat healthy". Or my favorite, when i asked if I looked heavier he said "you only look like you gained 5, maybe 6 lbs." I never wanted to nag him but these little comments were making me insecure.

I tried talking to him about it last night, but it only ends up in an even bigger fight because he can't manage to just tell me he thinks I'm fine the way I am. I understand he's just being honest... but everytime I eat he says "why did you eat that?" or "did you really need that?" Now I'm on a diet and he constantly reminds me to work out and not to eat too much.

He's not an asshole, he's just stupid and doesn't know how to sensor himself! every other girl he looks at is skin and bones, and I'm wondering that if I'm not his type... why has he been with me for so long??? I love him or else obviously I wouldn't be with him, but how can I go about talking to him about this without it turning into a huge fight? How can I help him get the message???

well,your definately NOT fat. but u ever think he might just be looking ont for you? i mean skinny girls can be unhealthy too.
So my advicego up to him casually and ask him Do you think im fat?'or and if he says yes then you dont disurve to be with a guy who doesnt like you for the person you are.Cause people come in many different shapes and sizes.
If he says no, then ask him why he keeps pressuring you to eat stuff you dont waht to or work out more than you want to.communication is key.
and you be the judge, whats the difference between coke and diet coke?it tastes the same:)

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(Rating: 1) You missed the point... it's not that I don't like diet coke or healthy foods, it's that he's consistantly telling me i need to lose weight. And I did ask why, and I said in my question that everytime I ask him why it escalates into a huge fight. This just wasn't very helpful...
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