I would research Hanukkah (I personally don't know much about it), and get her something that shows you made an effort to understand her point of view. I imagine that her family still exchanged gifts, so it would be more than appropriate to get her a gift.

You should definitely invite her to play secret Santa as well. Even if she doesn't believe the religious aspect, she probably wants to be included in her friends' celebration. At worst, she'll simply decline. Most people enjoy being included in their group of friends, and they are very hurt when they are left out.

If you are really concerned, you can talk to her about it, and ask about her beliefs. She has dealt with Christmas her whole life, so she probably knows what she expects. So just ask her!

Good luck and much love!

~TD

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