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Q: How many of you would cheat on your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband/fiancee/fiance if you knew they would never find out?

I adore my boyfriend, we've been dating for almost two year and I am head over heels in love. But, he doesn't completely...satisfy me if yall know what I mean. And he is aware of this at times. I have a chance do be satisfied by a guy I've know for a long time and does not really have any connections to my friends, or my bfs friends so there just about no chance of him finding out. I can't hurt my boyfriend, and I don't want to cheat on him but I need to be satisfied atleast once... I would just like some input on what yall would do. Thanks

I would not cheat, especially for a reason that seems, well, kind of superfluous. I don't know all of the details, but surely there is some solution to your boudoir problems? Some new position or game or toy? I suggest working on the sexual relationship you have instead of branching out. Cheating is demeaning to everyone involved, and I have never come across a situation where it was a good idea. Think about it--say you get "satisfied" by this other guy. Won't that make you that much more disappointed in your man? You'll have to cheat as long as you're with the guy to be happy in the bedroom--but still not happy with the man you actually love--and that is just not a fair or sound long term solution. Good luck and much love.

~TD

Rating: 5

I didn't even think of it like that, thank you.

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I'm back after a hiatus! I have graduated college (yay!) and am working with Thoroughbred racehorses in Kentucky.

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