You say yourself that there is nothing wrong, so I believe that you answered one part of your own question!

I had an experience similar to yours. I am half Japanese, and I really liked this Korean guy in school. I had only ever gone on dates with white guys, so I thought it would be really weird to date a Korean guy. We talked a little bit, but I was incredibly shy, and nothing ever came of it. I don't think that there is anything weird, but I don't think that relationship would have ever worked because I thought it was weird. If you can get over your mental block, you may be able to work things out, but it is you yourself making this weird.

As far as not liking him because you are afraid of losing him, that is not a good reason. Guys will come and go, and it happens more often for shy girls, believe me. Be friends, start there. if it is still weird, then don't sweat it, no one is forcing you to like the guy. If you enjoy being friends, and you could see yourself dating him, try dropping some hints that you like him. Spend time with him outside of school, so that you can gauge better whether you like him.

However, all of this is moot without your confidence. Do whatever you can to build your self-confidence, even if it sounds cheesy. Write down lists of things you like about yourself, things your good at, anything like that. This is really cheesy to get rid of the "bad stuff", but you could try it: visualize a list of things you don't like about yourself (don't write it down!), and pretend they are in a computer file and "click" delete in your mind. This will help you get rid of ideas of poor self image.

Once you are confident, you can take over the world! Okay, not really, but you can become outgoing enough to be approachable and dateable.

Thanks. Your advice was really helpful and I guess I should just go for it...but the semester is ending so next year! lol but thanks soo much :D

I'm back after a hiatus! I have graduated college (yay!) and am working with Thoroughbred racehorses in Kentucky.

I enjoy giving advice to teens because now that I am older, I have a proper perspective of high school, but I am close enough in age that I don't think I'll come off as some idiot with adult problems that has no idea how teenage life works. Generally I answer love life questions, since that is where many self-image problems surface-not to mention it's highly confusing! If you are wondering about my own love life... well, I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are getting married once he finishes law school, and yes! We are high school sweethearts!

I also love giving advice to dog owners. I have grown up with dogs and currently have two mutt-butts of my own :) I have worked for several different veterinary clinics, including a vet school, I have taken tons of classes, as well as doing personal research.

I try to be understanding of everyone's problems...I also try to see things from the asker's point of view, but often I do not have enough information so I do the best I can!

BTW if you want to ask me a question, please keep in mind: I LIKE--decent spelling and grammer, proper punctuation, and real words; I HATE--using "like" improperly, lack of punctuation, and gross misspellings. I am happy to read and answer any question, but these are just polite things to do for any columnist!

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