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hiiiiii everyone :)
well im 18 years old, female.
i have a good friend, well pretty much my best friend and his name is ben. i've known him for about four years now, and i've always always had a thing for him but he use to have a girlfriend so i kept those feelings to myself and well, they never did go away. just about 6 months ago ben tried to get with me, and it pretty much came out of nowhere, i was stunned. he didn't have a girlfriend, but he was trying to get down my pants and everything. i'm still a virgin, never really done anything past kissing, making out and getting felt up so obviously my reaction to him was "no!" i've also never had a boyfriend before, it's like when i really like someone and i find out they like me too, i push myself away from them. maybe i am scared of getting into a relationship, but i don't like it at all. well just a few weeks ago ben was at my house, and well he kissed me. this boy, he turns me on alot and i know he wants to finger me but i am scared. i always feel like guys only want to use me but i've known him for 4 years, and it's not like he has always just tried to get with me. i'm so comfortable with him, i tell him alot of my problems and he does help me out. has anyone else ever felt the resistance to do something with a guy because you always feel like your going to get used? i can't live like this forver, i have to take chances ya know? maybe it is because i've never been in a relationship, and it's why i feel like this but i just need a second opinion on what you think is going on, should i trust him? do you think he is just trying to use me?

As a matter of fact, I've been through what you have. I had this bestfriend who I've known for over 10 years. Well not too long ago, he asked me to have sex with him, and i figured he was joking around seeing as he does that a lot. Turns out he wasnt. Then he just wanted to fool around ya know, do whatever but sex until i was comfortable. Im comfortable around him more than anyone in this world, but i was scared. I wanted to fool around with him so bad, like i wanted him more and more every time we would talk about doing something. He turned me on like no other, and i loved it. We never ended up doing anything though we had ample opportunity to do so. And to be honest i regret it so much. I felt used because now him and i arent the best of friends and i still want him so badd.
But I don't think he's using you, chances are he knows you have some sort of feelings towards him. And i think you can trust him, and i say go for it. Seriously, you probably wont regret it, rather than not doing it and regretting it as i do.
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